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RETURN TO GOD. LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

First edition. July 18, 2021.

Copyright © 2021 Vladimir Živković.

Written by Vladimir Živković.

Also by Vladimir Živković

Modern Relationships Return to God: Men and Women Sexuality and Seduction Return to God. Love Relationships

Savremena duhovnost Povratak Bogu (savremena duhovnost i ljubavni odnosi)

Standalone Destroy Evil Love and Sex Modern Relationships The Book About Divine Self

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

Živković Vladimir

Smashwords Edition

Copyright 2017

Cover:

Živković Vladimir

Translator:

Maja Đolović

TABLE OF CONTENT

NOTE TO THE READER

INTRODUCTION

ABOUT THE BOOK

Chapter I – PSYCHOLOGY OF LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

BROKEN HEART

GETTING MARRIED

ENGAGEMENT (betrothal)

TWO FACES/SIDES

AN UNHEALTHY JEALOUSY

HOW MUCH DO LOOKS MATTER?

MATERIALISM

UNFAITHFULNESS AND NEGLECT = RUTHLESSNESS

BEING LOYAL TO A PERSON

APPREHENSION (PREMONITION)

SUBTLE PROMISCUITY CALLED MISFORTUNE

Chapter II – RETURN TO FAITHFULNESS

CONQUERING

RESPECT FOR THE PARTNER

FEAR OF LOVE

CLOSENESS

Chapter III – RELATIONSHIPS AND KARMA

SPIRITUAL PARTNERS

PERMANENCE

ADAM AND EVE

HOW TO (NOT) /BE SUCCESSFUL IN LOVE

STORY ABOUT PAIN, SADNESS, AND MISFORTUNE

RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF

Chapter IV – DEVELOPING SYMPATHY

EVIL MEN

ABOUT ABUSE (or, to women)

SOMETHING ABOUT FAKE FRIENDSHIP

Chapter V – EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

ENLIGHTENMENT

WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND

MODERN MOTHERHOOD

NOTE TO THE READER

There isn’t greater joy than getting to know your own being. The better you know yourself from the inside, the more you’ll know others. And this is reflected mostly in male-female relationships because such relationships aren't kinships by genes and blood, but by your closeness to the partner. And that closeness is determined by how much you’ve got to know inner being of your partner, as well as your being.

The books that I’m writing should teach you exactly that thing. To get to know yourself and others in the right way, and not to swim in shallow waters as people nowadays do, while the truth, love, and happiness are hidden.

Be self-critical and enjoy the news that you’ll find out with the help of this book for the first time both with surprise and relief.

INTRODUCTION

Positive thoughts for the whole world are a remedy for the whole world.

What does that mean?

Thoughts and ideas come from the mind. Man chooses by his will which one to put into action. If you don’t have evil thoughts, then there is no reason to do bad things.

This same philosophy can be applied to sexuality and love affairs of the man. If the man uses his sexuality in a divine way and if he/she truly loves and respects its partner, he/she’ll have a healthy love relationship. If all people have nurtured healthy love relationships, the world would have completely recovered. When I say recover, that means that people would find happiness and live happily in their families. And if families are mended, the whole world will recover too, because, it actually consists of families.

Many spiritualists emphasize that the sexuality is overstated and that connectedness to the family is a source of suffering for the man. However, they don’t realize that human kind works and survives on the basis of love relationships and sexuality. Thus, they aren’t meaningless subject at all. On the contrary, the effort to reach the high quality of the love relationships in society is generally of great significance. Because the one thing is to fake spirituality and despises creation. The other thing is to accept the world as God created it and to nourish love and knowledge.

The second point.

Many people emphasize the importance of imagination. It’s believed that the more imagination develops, the better for the person. However, if the person uses too much of imagination as an escape from the reality, such state could even make worse his/her hard life and that one isn’t even aware of it. Going into the world of imagination can increase the sense of suffering because imagination can just make a person even more vividly recognize his misfortune and cause a stronger resistance to situations in one's life.


People daydream about the love and sexual relationships all the time. In their imagination, they have invented that, so with hideous living and wrong use of sexuality they can gain happiness and enjoyment. However, the fact is that today people are mostly lonely, and in general, the endurance of today's love relationships is devastating.

People are often disappointed so they are frequently in a situation to look for new a partner. Such lifestyle brings loss of dignity and faith in oneself to any person. Every failed relationship makes a stain on self-esteem because what mind doesn’t like and not want to accept at all are failure and defeat. And every breakup is that.

The man who has many breakups behind him, in order to cover up lack of confidence and loneliness, starts acting as if freedom and promiscuity suit him. And not just that. The man acts as if he didn’t respect others and as he respected oneself in the same manner. Many even believe that if they humiliate someone in a sexual or love aspect that they would return their self-esteem.

What is the reason of all of this?

Destroying the quality of love relationships because of focus on selfishness and pleasure.

Therefore we can draw on the first law that reads:

Mending love relationships of the modern people means mending the whole world.

The first question is immediately posed:

- How can a man earn a fulfilling love relationship (of course, if one wants it)?

The main part of the answer can be found in this book.

ABOUT THE BOOK

My first book on men and women is called “Return to God: Men and Women”. This one is named “Return to God: Love Relationships”. Many readers would immediately ask: -What do God and success have to do with love relationships? This is exactly what is about. The intention is not just about making a person think about it, but also to realize that everything in his life depends on his relationship with God.

When it comes to the family, it’s best for the child’s parents to be together, that they are all together and that they love each other. If a child has no parents, or they abandon him, that’s the very bad situation for the child. Just imagine. What if a person turns back on someone on whom everything depends? If he turns his back to God?

Of course that when the man turns his back on God, God doesn’t turn back on that person. God still takes care of that man. However, psyche and life are considerably changing for worse when man forgets about God. He often does evil and self-destructive actions and loneliness and misfortune come after him. Playing smart and proud become priorities for him while happiness and love come after that. Such person is not aware of this fact.

I don’t like to deceive people. I don’t want to cater to the human ego, because exactly that human ego (especially mind) with which almost every person identifies, is a jailer of the human soul. I want people to realize that everything in their life depends on their relationship with God, even the love relationship and depth of their intimacy in sex with their partner.

From this, we can immediately conclude that both love and sexuality come from God, and since the God is perfect that means that happiness in those things can be earned only by honesty, morally and ethically.

There’s no happiness in indulging oneself in godless ways. There is no chance that a person would act wrongly, without having respect for himself and others, and that he could gain love and truth. God is the love and truth. Without the faith in God, no one can achieve lasting and fulfilling relationship. No one can even live sexuality and enjoyment with dignity. That’s the thing that each person will have to know, if not from those who already know it, then based on their own experiences and sufferings.

However, as soon as you realize that the life without God is a fake life in misery and sadness, the sooner you will reach the fulfillment of your wishes and happiness.

Somebody will think as if he happens to know people that don’t believe in God and they have achieved a good love relationship.

I can only ask: - Is that really so? Are they really happy? Have they really abandoned God?

Many have turned back on their parents, many are angry at their parents, and they are still tied to their parents and it matters to them what their parents think and do. In the same way, many pretend that God doesn’t exist because they are angry or hurt inside, so they experience God as guilty for their lack of selfcriticism. However, in difficult situations, this person always recalls God and prays to Him for help.

A lukewarm person is not non-believer necessarily, although it’s very bad to be lukewarm i.e. indecisive (he’s both not for God and not against it, so in egoism, he acts according to his needs). For such people, God says that He will spit them

out of His mouth (because they’re tasteless). The man that’s cold to God is a creepy person that doomed oneself to misery and loneliness. Don’t you ever have such role models and don’t try to follow such people as much as it seems tempting. The end of the disbeliever’s road is always full of tears and disappointment. The end of this road is the beginning of the faith in God. That means that the road without the faith in God is suffering and the waste of time of each individual, with no exceptions.

Keep this in mind when you look at yourself, the world, people, and life.

Chapter I – PSYCHOLOGY OF LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

BROKEN HEART

There is a plant in the world named "broken heart". Modern people are well acquainted with it and it’s nourished well. Thus it grows very fast and in many places.


That means that this is the current situation in the world.

No one knows whom does one belong to. Everyone’s hitting on anybody, and making mistakes.

In the end, people get disappointed and they reconcile themselves.

Eh, you see, there’s something that many people don’t know.

Right in the "broken heart" there’s the Supreme being itself. If you call Him, He will respond from there. Then you’ll realize that " broken heart " actually doesn’t exist. It’s a pure illusion.

The message is following:

Your heart is invincible, even when you it defeat.

Because, who has ever defeated the Invincible one?

The answer is following:

No one ever did.

Thus, if you don’t find Supreme being within yourself, or at least in your partner, you will stay unfulfilled at your heart and dissatisfied in your mind. Then there’s even no use of the "mutual love".

GETTING MARRIED

When you go on a train trip, you first take a bath, then you pack your things and suitcases, then you go to the train station, buy the ticket, wait for the train, and you get aboard.


This order of actions brings success in traveling by train. I believe you don’t know anyone who’s got onto a train without the previously mentioned actions.

What’s this about?

Love relationships have a certain purpose in life. Getting married gives you a chance that through obligations, duties, and feelings you reach love, God, and meaning of life.

Many people make mistakes in the very beginning. They think that marriage exists for pleasure and for living selfishness and egoism. They start love relationship as they are already on the train, i.e. they start with sex and intimacy, the things that should follow in the end.

Thus the explanation of preparing for the train is important. A person has to prepare oneself to be ready for the marriage. It’s not desirable that a person gets married if he/she hasn’t previously cleansed from the inside from selfishness and egoism.

How can a person clean oneself from the inside?

He/she can do it with the faith in God and work on oneself.

When the love feelings are overflowing within you, the willingness to sacrifice, and when the God is close to you, at that point’s good to look for a partner, but for marriage.

Why just for the marriage?

Because the determination and commitment to one partner is an indication that someone can rely on you, and that you’re steady in your actions and feelings. A person who experiments with people of the opposite sex doesn’t respect others, not even himself. This means that if one doesn’t think of others' dignity, he doesn’t even think about his own because he doesn’t have it at all.

So, swimming and packing a suitcase is the same as an individual preparation of a person for marriage by cultivating closeness to God and nourishing faithfulness to oneself.

Then comes the departure to the station. That is getting to know the potential partner.

A person must solve all the dilemma related to the potential partner before getting married. If two people have an agreement and solve their problems before marriage and before living any sex or intimacy, then their problems in

marriage are the one to help them spiritually improve. That means that such approach greatly reduces quarrels, jealousy, and rage in marriage. Also, partners can mutually respect each other for that, and be truly intimate. Living sexuality before the decision and marriage, and before any agreement on mutual life important for each individual in a different way brings a failure through mistrust and disrespect for the partner.

When you have made an agreement with the partner, and when you have chosen your partner with the whole heart without sexuality and intimacy, that’s great point to enter marriage. In this case, this is the buying ticket at the station, waiting for your train to come, getting onto the train, and coming to trip together with your beloved partner.

The question is following: Why are modern relationships and marriages so short?

Because the participants of such marriages don’t respect themselves, creation, others, and God himself. No one’s thinking neither about the wellbeing of the partner and his dignity nor about the injuries that will follow if the relationship fails.

Some people may say that everyone makes mistakes. However, if you hurt some other being, such excuse is fake. Such mistakes create long-term unresolved injuries and unfortunate fate. Therefore it’s important for everyone to think about themselves and their behavior related to male-female relationships. More precisely, modern relationships are mainly not based on decision and determination, but on the principle ‘we’ll see how it will go’. Eh, that “we’ll see” is in the reality unsuccessful for sure.

ENGAGEMENT (betrothal)

In near past, people were smarter and they knew the frailty of the heart in love relationships.


In the past, people more thought about themselves, their own happiness and dignity. That's why they were trying to make rules that would ensure love and happiness for everyone, especially for the young.

Modern people have forgotten the sanctity of the marriage. Young people live so that they don’t respect themselves and they live to satisfy their egoism. Satisfaction of egoism brings rushing misfortune, and then loneliness, which brings us to the conclusion that modern people give up easily on themselves and their happiness very early. Positive rites, traditions, and ideas are lost. That’s how a man lost its value.

Many are horrified by parents choosing partners for their kids while they are still young. That’s how is bigoted considered nowadays that kids are promised to one another while they have just a few years. Nowadays one believes in a possibility of choice. However, even if you go to the most expensive restaurant where there are various tasty tidbits spread on the table, you could still choose food that is the least to your liking.

Therefore, if you don’t consider God to be your perfect friend, you’ll believe in the possibility of choice. If you consider God to be your most perfect friend, you’ll know how much He loves you and cares about you, so you’ll not believe in the possibility of choice but in a God’s providence, i.e. gift. At that point, you will also know that God will always give you what’s best for you. That’s why the

possibility of choice much more has to do with the self-esteem issues of the man and with his/her misfortune (what is unbelievable for many people).

So, why do I consider that it’s better for parents to choose marital partners for their children?

Because the children don’t have to make a choice, they don’t have to seduce, they don’t have to have harmful sexual experience, and they can surrender themselves to love completely, without spiritual injuries that can result from illtreatment.

However, we have to be realistic here and make the conclusion that people consider very bad the fact that someone else is choosing your partner, especially someone else than your parents. Eh, this opinion is also ok.

Why?

Because the modern parenting has largely failed so parents become incapable of finding a good partner for their children. The best solution turns out to be the worst solution in this case due to such circumstances. Parents that choose partners for their children should have integrity and dignity (that’s lost because of the modern promiscuity).

For that reason, the modern youth had to change because one has to rebel even against their parents if they persistently serve him misfortune despite their good intentions.

Thus today young have to find the partner on their own. They have much more responsibility because they have to cultivate and educate themselves.

It’s clear here why I insist all the time on the importance of fidelity and determination. Temptation and seduction are the safe way to damnation. Young nowadays have to give up on promiscuity and ”boyfriend and girlfriend” relationship and they have to realize the importance of marriage and decision.

Since many young people start early with the love relationships, it is very difficult to opt for the marriage since the person is ready for the marriage only after the twenties (and some even later). However, even for such situations, our ancestors had mostly positive solutions. They invented an engagement based on which two people as a couple would promise each other to come into marriage when the situation is ripe and achievable. In that way, young people could be together without being married.

However, this solution is not productive for the present time because people don’t understand the importance of a promise. People easily break up marriages, so why shouldn’t they easily break an engagement?


Engagement has powerful and positive effect if two people have integrity and they realize the importance of the human heart and promise. Also, making prearranged marriages is great provided that parents that arrange marriage are moral, well-educated and they themselves have a happy marriage.

TWO FACES/SIDES

The truth is always one. However, in the events between people truth has many faces. Scarce are those who equal themselves to the truth.


Let's take love relationship as an example. Partners experience a particular situation, but they have a completely different view. There’s a friction between their egos because of the difference in views. They clash more or less, there is solidarity between them more or less, which depends on viewpoint and conviction. To make things even more strange, viewpoints of both partners usually have nothing to do with the truth. If you happen to explain to those people that they are making mistake, they would even get angry. That means that the truth is always somewhere in the middle. Both of them have to give up on some of the selfishness and ego in order to find the common truth i.e. the right solution. It’s clear why I suggest here that two married people have to make effort and participate because two people in the marriage are a whole. If one of the partners is not communicating and trying to find a solution in a peaceful way, the relationship will fail unmistakenly.

That’s how a very young man found a girl whom he fell in love deeply. One would say that the girl was very good at first glance. She listened to a man, didn’t contradict him, while he was very nervous and insecure. He was causing a lot of problems to her because of his insecurity. He accused her of many things that she didn’t do. If she tried to defend herself in such a way that she explained to him that he was too rough, he would become even worse. He had such a low opinion of himself that he couldn’t take a criticism from the person he liked.

Karma never sleeps. The moment came when he had to go for a while. Since they were fighting all the time, he went after the argument, so they didn’t have a chance to make it up. So he went away and he didn’t have a chance to consider

herself to be his. She found someone else during his absence. That broke him.

As we can see, the man really had reason to be uncertain about her. She was nice, but on a subconscious level, he knew that he couldn’t rely on her, and that was the reason for him to make a fuss and be bad to her.

After a while, the man had some experiences that made him change. He gained a milder nature over time and become patient. Then he met another girl. As soon as he started being nice to her and fell in love, she started raging at him. As much as he assured her that he loved her, she was being even worse to him. He was recollecting his relationship from the past at that point. He ed how he loved the previous girlfriend, and how terrible he was towards her, and how she hurt him. Then he realized that he’s not giving to this girl what is necessary. He realized that she’s furious at him because she can’t rely on him. He thought to himself: – No matter what happens, I will not let her down, and I won’t look to some other girl. I will love her just the way she is.

As soon as he has made the decision, the girl changed her attitude to him. His decision brought to such attitude in life that it simply it was not possible to do differently.

What’s the moral of this story?

Everything that happens to you, has one face, a present face that you look at and understand in your own way. However, the other side, the person you are related to is your face. Both your mistakes and mistakes of your partner are your mistakes. Not just your partner’s.

We can clearly see from this example that it’s silly to blame your partner. Partner’s mistakes don’t give you excuse and right to sin. As much as your partner is bad, that’s not an excuse for you to be bad. That means that if you correct your mistakes, you will also correct the mistakes of your partner.

If we think well, the guy from the example could do the same as his exgirlfriend. In that way, he will gain lots of negative karma, and he would learn nothing. However, he ed the mistake of his ex-girlfriend, and his mistake, so he could understand his present girlfriend, and he could understand that he is basically unfaithful, and he has to give faithfulness to his girlfriend. That understanding gave him persistence, patience, and endurance, which are essential in situations when partners have problems. And if partner notices your endurance, he will feel safe, and he would not even want to leave you, so how many do you know that have someone to rely on, spiritually?

There are almost none of them.

So, everything that happens to you, you were either on the other side, or you’ll be. Because it’s important for you to learn, and to solve your mistakes, not your partner’s. Changing partner’s character is very often waste of time because if you have such attitude, that means that you see things and events distorted, you are not self-critical, so you can’t change partner’s mistakes in the right way.

AN UNHEALTHY JEALOUSY

Nowadays we can often hear the statement of some people that their partner is unhealthy jealous. What does that mean?

If someone was emotionally hurt, he or she has the propensity to doubt. When he recognizes the patterns of behavior at its current partner matching with the previous partner that hurt him, such person can be jealous because he/she was hurt in that way. The injury revives again because the new partner is the one who in the present acts and does the same.

Therefore, unhealthy jealousy almost doesn’t exist. If someone is jealous of you, it is better for you to look for the mistake within yourself. The real truth is if someone is jealous he/she has the valid reason to feel that way. Then the one who causes jealousy pretends as if someone is unreasonably jealous.

A person that makes its partner jealous is much worse than the partner that is jealous. The one who suffers jealousy is always braver and more sincere. The one who creates jealousy and still pretends that it is normal is an insensitive person, and there is something very wrong with that person.

People that cause jealousy, spread misfortune, and when they pretend that others have no reason to be jealous, they cause anger and contempt in hearts of those who they deceive. Thus those who cause jealousy are in dire ignorance, and they say that someone is unhealthy jealous. Such people will in near or far future be exposed to jealousy, so their emotional wounds will teach them to act with comion.

Causing jealousy (both deliberately or unintentionally) is basically irresponsibility, insensitivity, and pure evil and cowardice. In this case, it is

caused because of a person’s wish to rise above partner and dominate. That’s the indicator from the very beginning that there is no love and that person that causes jealousy is more concerned with self-liking ego than with love and the partner. That means that jealous negation of love that should be the essence of a love relationship is justified.


If someone tells you how jealous he-she is, or if you notice that your partner is jealous, be self-critical, and think: are you doing evil? Even if there is an unhealthy jealousy, it’s better for you to believe that it doesn’t exist. Those who don’t to face themselves and their shortcomings have invented the unhealthy jealousy. A person that causes jealousy certainly has self-esteem issues.

People that don’t care about others and cause jealousy are not just fragile and miserable presently, but they will be even more miserable in the future when they will have to face their sins. Causing jealousy is unfaithfulness, too. The unfaithful ones, in the end, get hurt, and they ask:

– How does that happen?

Simple, thanks to karma and God’s justice. If you’re hitting in the middle of the heart, those same blows will come back at you with the same force. That’s the ancient law that always works.

HOW MUCH DO LOOKS MATTER?

We live in a time when the pleasure is highly valued. If one values pleasure too much, then much will be invested in things that bring pleasure. Thus they begin to value: looks, affluence, intelligence, science, and sex. Love and character, as well as God, is being neglected.


Egotism and the human stupidities are one and the same thing. Stupidity destroys the character of the man, its dignity, and its capacity to love. That is generally reflected in the misery of a man that lives and acts in such manner.

Once there was a girl that had "something" that many men liked about her. She was really unattractive, but she always got to find "boyfriend". Because she was unattractive, she envied the girls that looked handsome. Because of her despise towards beautiful girls, she insisted on the conviction that the physical appearance is not important for the relationship between the man and the woman. That is why she convinced herself that the beautiful girls are not special and that they find the man thanks to their looks. She liked to think as if she was special, and has "something", because, although she is unattractive, she was always capable of finding a new "boyfriend".

One of her ex-boyfriends has found a new girlfriend that was really pretty. He said:

– No matter what kind of girl she is, I prefer beautiful one with flattering behind and boobs, just being without "something" that my unappealing ex-girlfriend has.

What is this about?

Many beautiful and attractive people have bad character and live promiscuously. However, many people with unappealing looks are the same. It is very negative if you are envious and hate good-looking people (also unattractive ones). The character of the man is the most important thing to look at. Envy and hatred are very negative personal traits, and they define how bad is some person. Thus pay attention to "something" that many are pointing out. What is it that is special according to their point of view? If someone is not iring beauty, why is that so? Why would someone not appreciate something that someone else has?

The beauty is ing. However, that’s the reason to appreciate and respect it more. Also, many other things are ing. Fame, power, money, etc. What matters about the false things is that they are transient. But if something is transient, that doesn’t mean that you have to hate or despise it. If so, the ugliness is transient too. Certainly, the life will come in which you will have a beautiful body. It is not good to hate neither beauty nor ugliness. Any feelings related to that represent your karma for past actions. That means that your character determines both your physical appearance and your attitude towards it.


Many unattractive people are worse than the beautiful ones. That has to do with the character, not with the physical appearance. Thus the character of the person is not estimated according to its looks. A beautiful woman that had only one man is more faithful and dedicated than the one who had many. The same goes for a man ( heh, it is strange everything that I have to write ).

That’s why the ex-boyfriend statement that I mentioned in the example is not strange at all. Manipulation of intelligence, money, convenience, looks, and genitals, can never be assumed as "something". Thus, take close look at positive dispositions that some person has and watch how he/she uses them. It is not bad to respect beauty and usefulness if the character is shaped like a diamond. However, those who don’t have good dispositions bouth the things that are not necessarily negative.

MATERIALISM

Today there’s a rule that man must be well off. Many girls act wantonly and because of their seductive and provocative behavior they attract men that don't pay attention to virtues, but they just care about ion.


A man who mostly cares about ion, as a rule, is not a good person, neither a faithful man. The woman that causes jealousy and dresses provocatively, is hardly a good one, and even harder could be a faithful woman. Unfaithfulness never has anything to do with sexual unfaithfulness. Sexual unfaithfulness is just a final material proof of someone’s brutal unfaithfulness.

Nowadays, the man that’s rich or physically strong is very often considered special for that, so he also thinks that he can do whatever he wants. A nice looking girl has many wooers, so she thinks that she has right to act as she wants. Beautiful girls, as a rule, are subject to temptation i.e. their weaknesses so they play with the men’s heart. That’s why many marriages are made based on the interest and ion. Only when these people begin to grow old, they realize how much they did wrong and how powerless they are and they used to act powerfully.


None of the girls that causes jealousy and lust around can’t find a good man. That’s because a good man doesn’t like emotional abuse. Causing jealousy is certainly, emotional abuse. Thus girls that cause jealousy always find the man that hides its true intentions (that certainly are not noble). The normal man wouldn’t tolerate such behavior, and he would say:

– Hello, what are you doing? It can’t be like that.

If a man acts in such way to such female behavior, such man hides something very bad.

Also, the man that relies on his own look and material state, can’t find a good woman. A man has to rely on God and virtues. The man that relies on attributes and on material state certainly is not much wise, and very likely not a good man. Such man certainly doesn’t respect a woman, and oneself can illusory respect only if the other side if it’s in suppressed position (i.e. if he considers himself superior to a woman). The man who wants to make a woman dependant on him has issues (is evil).

Eventually, searching for love has never gone out of style in God’s eyes. The one who thinks differently gets really disappointed.

Why am I writing this?

Because of many materialists and sexually endangered act as if they were so good and they look for or offer love. Learn to recognize such people, just to protect oneself. What is fake will never be the truth, neither valuable as such. Thus, don’t allow lovers into your home. Those are not lovers, but enemies who pretend to know love. You better ask yourself:

– What’s wrong with me, if I let such people into my bed?

UNFAITHFULNESS AND NEGLECT = RUTHLESSNESS

A guy had a girlfriend whom he dated for a while. During that period the two of them seemed as made for each other. They lived together for a while. Still, they haven’t decided about one another, and they haven’t married. Due to such situation, their relationship was in crisis. During the critical period, the guy cheated on the girl. There was a breakdown in the end and their relationship fall apart.

Soon after that, she finds another guy. He was not doing well. A bad luck followed him, so he earned less and less and was not having luck and success with girls.

Many people that know him were joking with him as his ex-girlfriend is happy with another guy and how stupid he turned out because of his doing and for not marrying her. Everyone believed that the girl is now happy with another man. As if the other man was much better and able than our character. These people thought as if their statements were very smart.

So, what happened?

He met the girl one day and saw that she was on her own. She was not with this other guy anymore.

What is this about?

It’s about the people being insensitive, and not that they are ignorant, they are also merciless. They don’t see if two people are made for each other. Then, their

wittiness additionally bothers the couple already having lots of problems. If the people knew something, they wouldn’t go with the tide.


A person has to be very simple to think that it’s easy to erase one’s love. In addition, I am noting that the first one always has privilege. No guy, nor a girl, has right to interfere any love relationship, even when it’s apparently finished. That’s because God doesn’t allow such sinful acts of people changing partners all the time. So what kind of person it is who doesn’t look into his business? Which do laymen think as if someone can easily erase the love of their life? What kind of person is it when takes your heart for granted?

And what people today do?

As soon as someone loses its partner, they don’t try to help, but they advise a new relationship. What kind of person is so stupid, careless and uneducated, that it gives such advice? A person is not a sex organ that can tolerate everyone. A person is a soul in the midst of the heart. Why would anyone think that soul likes the change of the partner?

Why would anyone think that soul thinks about who is better, more capable or smarter?

Why would anyone think that pointing out that someone is without its true love will bring him happiness?

Why people do such things, that someone turns back on their partner, while someone else accepts for the partner the person that left its partner in trouble?

How possible it is that someone has no wits nor feelings, at all?

According to that, the one who knows that you loved, and doesn’t care about that, but takes you to bed, have you asked yourself: what kind of person is that? And why do you think that the relationship with such person can succeed? What will happen when this person realizes that you can’t get it over? So who can get over it’s own betrayal at all?

BEING LOYAL TO A PERSON

There’s a conviction that a man should supply the woman with money, gift, good time, good sex. That he should be attractive. He should be capable and successful in his job. It is desirable to have a big house and a fancy car. It should also be raised as beseems the modern guy.

Ah, yes. The modern humor is also desirable, and being smart.


Loyalty to the features I have listed is not being loyal to a man. Therefore, women taking primarily care of these listed features, are not faithful to themselves, so they can’t be faithful to a man either.

Such women are slaves to their misconceptions. Love is a distant and inexplicable concept for them.


A girl not being committed to a human being remains out of love forever.

Because love goes from being to being.

APPREHENSION (PREMONITION)

There are many men today who believe that there is no woman they could understand. Some women are also insecure, so they say that they are special, so there is no man that could understand them, nor fathom them.


That means that men who have such feeling rarely think and they are disconnected from their heart. A person that is at slightest related to God can understand and experience the woman. The woman that thinks of herself being unfathomable to men and how special and good is that in reality, doesn’t understand herself. Such a woman with her conviction brings much misfortune to men as well to oneself.

You are wondering, how?

The woman that thinks that she shouldn’t be fathomed psychologically, as well emotionally, lives in delusion because such situation reflects the distance between men and such women. Distancing proves that she is not capable of surrendering to love, which is the highest goal of women in love relationship.


If you have lived many lives by now, that means that you have been man many times, as well woman. For that reason, stating that all women or all men are the same doesn’t the real facts, because that statement itself is the attack on each personality (even yours) which brings us to the conclusion that person with

such statements negates oneself, one's goal and purpose. Such statement is the indicator that the man by not understanding the opposite sex is primarily not understanding oneself, while by condemning the opposite sex he condemns himself by simple absence of self-criticizing and wishes to change oneself. To be more precise, the people of the opposite sex are not unfathomable, but the one who thinks so. The reasons for that are unfaithfulness and fear from love. Eh, those are the characteristics of people for whom is said is impossible to catch them either for the head or tail. Thus these people are always unhappy and they speak about the opposite sex with contempt.

Men and women who are capable of love are making an effort to understand the opposite sex. It happens for reason that this is the main purpose of love relationships. They exist for the purpose of two people meeting each other in the most intimate way. Two people don’t meet because of manipulation, selfish interests and finding relief for their issues in an impossible way.

A piece of advice:

Give up on egoism and fake wisdom that lead you to stupidity and misfortune. Discover yourself to yourself, in order to discover others. How are you going to discover God, if you are not discovering yourself to yourself, nor others to yourself?

SUBTLE PROMISCUITY CALLED MISFORTUNE

Little mistake in the beginning, grows big mistake in the end.


There was a young girl full of happiness and joy, and full of life. She lived alone in her apartment.

Because of the commonly accepted modern disregard towards oneself and the opposite sex, she thought normal to find a “boyfriend” under such circumstances. Since she was young, beautiful, smart and funny, it was not hard for her to find a boyfriend. The only problem was whom she will choose because there were many of them. She decided to date a guy who seemed like right one. He was from good family and spend lots of time with her. He didn’t contradict her, and he was not violent.

However, this girl, although coming from the family where she was loved, was not well raised. That was because her parents were not aware of causes of their problems and dissatisfaction. That was the reason why this girl didn’t know anything about devotion to self, spirituality, about keeping one’s dignity. Because of the narrow-mindedness of the society, she was not even thinking why God has given obvious virginity to women.

That’s why she got into the relationship with a guy who was immature, and not even close to the capability of making clear boundaries, and that he could completely choose her. She wasn’t aware that such men are worst for women, and that such man couldn’t and shouldn't be trusted.

Her parents were “optimists” and blind with their eyes. They knew that their daughter is special and brilliant, and they didn’t know that unfaithfulness and promiscuity destroy even such exceptional persons.

Because of doubtfulness and unconscious unfaithfulness, this relationship falls apart quickly. After the breakup, the young man was still present in her life in a way and in her apartment, although they didn’t date, they were still being intimate because he was often in her apartment.

After the breakup, she was severely hurt because of the bigotry of the modern society. She didn’t pay attention to that but she wanted to repeat the same relationship with another man, and she thought that the next relationship will succeed.

She has also found a good boyfriend who would do everything for her. He was ever more mature, he was driving a car, coming when she called him, sleeping and spending time in her apartment. However, she was very unhappy and lonely in that relationship. She thought as if something was wrong with her since the guy was so kind, and she doesn’t appreciate that, so she thought that she doesn’t deserve him. She was still not acquainted with the hidden promiscuity that is presently lived under the explanation of extramarital communities, and fictitious modern love relationships. She didn’t know that there is nothing worse for the woman than having sex with a man, without being married to him. When a man loves a woman, he primarily thinks about her heart and her dignity, so he gives her security when it comes to that through the decision and taking vows as getting married, and he gives her the gift of permanence when it comes to faithfulness and feelings.

The neighbors also started looking suspiciously at her, because when there is one guy after another, then no one is indifferent to that.

Therefore, when another relationship was broken, she was only left with: working on herself and mending her wounds, so that she could gain at least some faith in herself and men. However, since she hasn’t learned anything, she would start new relationships until she is spiritually ruined. In the end, she married the man she didn’t love, neither she was capable of surrender to him. She had a restless marriage in misery, and sickness came. That’s because the young man is capable of being dedicated to the first love relationship 100%. The second relationship has a chance if one makes effort. The third relationship is already a chaos of life.

Therefore, the girl eventually married and started the family, but does the whole story seems as a happy fairytale and success?


A minor initial error makes a lot of damage in the end. It always seems to people, let’s enjoy, fulfilling our wishes and pander to ions, it’s probably going to turn out well. However, such behavior is sin and irresponsibility towards oneself and others which as result has a total disaster.

I am always saying that children are the result of parents’ upbringing. However, I know that there are parents who love a lot their children and wish them all the best, and for real. I have addressed this text to these people.

It is very important for the people to give up on the belief that there may be ''modern relationships''. The only certain and safe thing is the marriage with the mutual consent and decision.

Why would risk your and your children’s lives?

Many people think that there are risks in life. They do, only if you act wrongly. In reality, life is certain if you are dedicated to God and love. Don’t you ever think that something would turn out well out of the incorrect, promiscuous and immoral behavior? Never trust to ''boyfriend'' and ''girlfriend'' relationship.

This text means that parents must realize this truth and invest all their strength and patience to explain to their children that impatience and promiscuous enjoyment bring loss of dignity, and the loss of happiness with itself as well capacity for faith, faithfulness, and love. The truth is that God established virginity and marriage that people would ensure their happiness, their dignity and their devotion in love.

Even many modern psychotherapists are complete enemies and idiots, so they teach people irresponsible sexuality and ego realization via betrayal, unfaithfulness and lack of dignity.

This means that any advice and any direction outside spirituality and orientation to God are pure evil and misfortune for the man.

Parents, protect or save your children! Don’t let partners sleep under the same roof, before the clear decision and accepted responsibility, because, looked from this view, it just seems as a minor mistake that can be fixed.

Be blessed.

Chapter II – RETURN TO FAITHFULNESS

CONQUERING

The desire for conquering is related to the complexes of the man.


If you are not satisfied with yourself, you will want to achieve the state of satisfaction. However, if a man isn’t satisfied with oneself, that means that he hasn’t still discovered self-esteem and what could bring him/her satisfaction. As a rule, a dissatisfied person doesn’t know happiness, doesn’t know how to achieve it, doesn’t know true values, and as an effect has no self-esteem. When a person lacks self-esteem, he/she has to be proud. Pride makes you want to have something that others don’t have or to achieve some achievements that nobody did.

That’s how the desire for constant conquering rises.

At this point, you should think a bit.

Many people dream of being like great conquerors from the past as Napoleon or Alexander the Great. Likewise, many would like to be as Casanova or Don Juan. Many in such desires recognize wish for greatness and not the first-class selfesteem issues.

So, you can estimate the psyche and the character of the person by idols that person has. If someone has a strong desire to conquer then there are many certain things about that person. And what is certain should be avoided.

People suffer greatly because of their complexes. There’s no doubt. However, who gets involved by their own choice, takes over the similar suffering to oneself. Therefore, comion is one thing, and human ignorance is something completely different. If you want to go with conquerors to battle or to bed, you are only responsible for your fate. Still, the question is following: what kind of fate is that, and is it really desirable?

What’s the thought that I want to suggest now?

A man should want to achieve what every person needs to achieve, because God has given him. The reason is the divine love of God toward man. However, many people and men mostly want to do or achieve something that nobody did.

Why’s that so?

It’s because of … complexes and of self-esteem.

Each person has to achieve happiness and reach God. Even if he has just anticipated it, he would want to give the same to others because he was raised correctly. A fragile ego wants to conquer, enslave, humiliate and rob of something. The fragile ego wants something that nobody has got.

Why do seducers care so much of notches? Why the conquerors can’t stop conquering?

Because they are getting away with their actions from God, happiness, and selfesteem. They are drowning until they get tired, and until they open for the other, better solutions. At that point, God helps them. The help consists of getting such experience that they would never incline to conquer, but only to God, and to help others.

True power is in helping others and offering them relief and feeling of selfesteem. Everyone can conquer (although many don’t agree with this statement).

Why can everyone conquer?

Being bad is easy. That is because you can follow a wrong way in a million ways. You should just find where you’re capable of doing evil. There’s only one correct way. If there is only one correct way, that means that you could be stubborn and be a rebel in a million ways. Because the rebelliousness is widespread among young people. People teach each other to be themselves and special.

Why?

Because people don’t realize that God is being Himself and special. The man as the creation of God is, in the same manner, being oneself and special. Trying to be yourself and special you are showing that you don’t realize that you have always been. At that point, you are doing the things which exemplify the selfishness of ego, and not what would describe yourself.


There are two forms of conquering nowadays. These are seduction and suppression. Both of them are complexes. Therefore:

How much you want to differ from others and to stand out? How much have you got to know yourself and God?

The only success is to attain a goal that God determined for each man. And what does the one who wants to stand out in the world, and wants something that he/she has never attained? To be precise, if you want to conquer someone, that means that you don’t know their value. Not recognizing the value of others is not recognizing yourself and your values. These are characteristics of the seducer and conqueror. If you conquer the whole world, you will be the emptiest of all souls. Who needs such exertion?

Nowadays the seduction is highly valued. If a person seduces, he/she doesn’t have to deal with oneself and go the right way. Everything one has to do is to deal with self-liking ego. The number of such people is growing. Thus loneliness and emptiness have inhabited many peoples’ hearts.

As you could see for yourself, you’re not that poor if you think so. You just need to open yourself to correctness and truth. Then every illusion and misfortune will run away from you. If a person keeps them closely, they are not going away.

Every soul abandons seduction and conquering at some point. The question is only how much is a person willing to endure pain and suffer i.e. will allow his complexes to swallow him/her up.

RESPECT FOR THE PARTNER

It is characteristic for persons in relationships or marriage longing for the respect of their partner nowadays.


That means that presently people in almost any relationship lack mutual respect. If you could spot a glimpse of respect in it, as a rule, it’s just acting. This statement will not appeal to many people. Those who are mostly provoked with this statement, are showing that their dignity is injured and that they are incapable of self-esteem and respect for oneself.

How a person comes into such situation, and why is that so?

Focus on pleasure and sex brings faulty valuation of Self and God. What was once first becomes the last. What should be the last, comes in front. In this way, a person lives wrongly, commits sin and does evil, so one can’t respect oneself. If someone doesn’t respect oneself, he/she is not respected by others. If such person wants to be respected, one could start pandering to the selfishness of the others so that they could start respecting him/her. He hopes that in that way he could regain self-respect and self-esteem. Still, it is impossible to regain selfrespect in that way.

The present men suffer because the persons of the opposite sex don’t respect them. If a modern woman has driven for dedication and desire to ire the man, she blocks and suppresses that because she wants to be emancipated. In fact, she acts in spite of man because her soul is hurt and because men don’t respect her.

Why is that so?

In order for others to respect you, you have to respect yourself.

Indeed that more famous you are, the more others will not respect you. They can’t respect you if they initially don’t respect themselves. However, close persons that you share your life with would have to respect you. If you keep by your side those who don’t respect you that means that you don’t respect yourself enough. At that point, you think that disrespect of your Self is someone else’s problem.

But here, we’re just chasing tails. If someone doesn’t respect you, he/she shows that is not respecting oneself. If you don’t respect yourself, neither others will respect you. If you don’t respect the others, then the life is a real hell for you, although you would like to think as if you are so special. Failures and disrespect for those you care about are eroding your dignity, so you are completely losing your self-respect.

It’s all because of ego and misjudging. Misjudging makes you act wrong. Acting wrongly brings not only misfortune but also loneliness and lack of self-respect. Then you are trying to force someone to respect you because deep down inside you feel that it’s really important.

As we could see, enjoying and sexuality aren’t the most important in love relationship. The most important is self-respect. It keeps safe your dignity and happiness.

But, how are you going to achieve that?

By knowing values and priorities.

Power, money, attraction, and lust are not important for a relationship. The most important is love. It is not important for self-respect that others respect you, but that you respect yourself. So, in order to bear a true love in your heart, the love of God is essential. Since the manifested God lives in all living beings, with respect and love for God, you are building a love and respect for yourself, and with the others at the same time. Thus Jesus said that what you do to others, you are just doing it to yourself. Self is present in everyone. If you don’t respect others, that means that you don’t respect yourself. Very plain and simple.

Therefore, God goes first, universal Self is following, then goes your Self, and eventually the Self of others. Only after that follows decision and stepping into marriage and sexuality. It’s very ignorant to think that you will deserve respect and gratitude by having sex with someone.

However, people don’t appreciate at all true values. They value things that are almost worthless without God, self-esteem, and self-respect. They value capacities, power, money, lust, enjoyment, sexuality and they wonder how none of the partners has respect in love for them. When adultery happens, people, even many psychiatrists say that forgiveness is the foundation of love. That’s ok, but no one understands how much the love is being neglected if the partners are mutually unfaithful and they don’t have respect for each other.

Thus forgiveness has no some important role because where there are no honest emotions, neither forgiveness has a true role. More precisely, it is hard to forgive because of ego. It is easy to forgive for love. In this way, it is hard for people to forgive because they don’t love honestly. They easily fail partner because they

don’t love honestly. They don’t respect each other, because they don’t love each other, but they, honestly - hate. Even if you forgive unfaithfulness to someone, it will not mean much to them, because he/she cheated on you because he/she doesn’t truly love you.

That’s why people who put sexuality in the first place, live in hate and mutual disrespect, while they convince both themselves and others as if their love is special. That is how we came into a situation that husbands batter wives and that wives emotionally abuse their husbands and that both sides in the relationship believe that love might be the foundation for such relations.

Why do they believe so?

Because they don’t have basic self-respect.

And how to regain self-respect?


If someone who means a lot to you doesn’t respect you, you are suffering a great abuse. That abuse could be so strong that you could even become terminally ill or even die. Therefore the love of God and self-respect with dignity, honesty, and morality is the only safe way to cure yourself and get in touch with people with whom your life will make sense and have value. Because there is nothing worse than being faced all the time with the partner who neither appreciates nor respects you. In this case, you have to make the right steps. Lying oneself and turning your head won’t help. However, I have to note here that I don’t necessarily think about leaving the partner or about revenge because that’s

basically lack of self-respect.

Thus it is important to build your relationship with Self and God. Because if you want to go into a relationship and you wish your dignity back, it could very easily happen that your partner won’t wish to continue forward with you in that manner, and still, to put it bluntly, something like that would be undesirable. An inevitable break-up is abuse and loss of time and dignity in itself.

FEAR OF LOVE

Fear of love is the worst of all fears.


The only certainty in the Universe is a pure love. The whole Universe is created and it grows based on love. Thus it’s the truth when it’s said that God is a pure love.

Therefore, there is nothing more powerful than love.

Thus, fear of love is most prevalent, although the most illogical. This kind of fear separates you from God, yourself and those you love. The person that is afraid of love always finds ''reasonable'' ways to get away from the loving person. At the same point, he/she is not aware of the fear that carries inside. This person experiences love as a great burden. Also, this person is subconsciously aware that he/she will be left without the loving person. Thus he/she can’t imagine how much it will hurt when he/she is suffering so much because of love now.


Stay calm. Recognize the fear of love. Be aware of this fear. This fear will take you to the bed of the person you don’t love. In this way, you’ll miss the chance for spiritual growth. Hold on to tenseness. Endure the fear. Choose love.

CLOSENESS

Peace, closeness, and safety go hand in hand.


One of the main God’s features is the one about which people forget all the time. That is the power of peace. The perfect peace is something that God only possesses. There is equality for people, the more peace, the more of love and spiritual strength in a man.

The peace is such strength that many due to their hypocrisy want to present it as weakness. That’s how happens that partners in the relationship argue. That is because they want to create emotional distance because too much of peace and intimacy hurts them. A truly strong man strives for intimacy and peace in love relationship.

People that run away from love to make a fuss a lot and to stand out. Of course, they also like to point out their feelings. Because they are doubtful about themselves and their heart, as well about their partner, they have to do so. Insecurity is the trademark of people who avoid peace and strive to events and interconnectedness.

Almost every man has a vision that he/she can cope with a close and open relationship. However, when the opportunity arises, what person hides even from oneself comes out. He is capable of being with someone whom he not cares about enough and that’s only because closeness terrifies him. Because of the fear of closeness, people are bonding in the relationship based on their subconscious emotional distance. Their contract on a subconscious level is like this: we’ll be together, we’ll sustain our relationship, we will argue and not respect each other

just to avoid hard and painful moments of closeness.

Thus people nowadays nurture arguing relationships. Thus they nurture promiscuity and unfaithfulness. True feelings of love that bring complete closeness and peace tear them apart. They can’t stand that. That’s why they blow themselves, magnify their ego and bad deeds and afterward, they live complete loneliness even if they have “lasting” relationship. However, even that lasting relationship is basically not a relationship. That’s the situation of avoiding the real relationship.

Thus think: do you run away from people that cause the strong feelings of love within you? Could you be cool in your outbursts of feelings and tenderness?

Don’t be scared to acknowledge the truth of this text. This presentation should entice in people something they subconsciously repress since their first injury in their childhood. It might seem incredible, but that’s the repression of love and escape to discontent and misfortune due to unconscious fear and wrong education.


Open your heart. Gain the inner strength that you could endure the power of peace and love. Don’t be afraid. Too much of noise is a constraint of love on purpose. This in the least goes for love relationship, although the relationship is the initial topic of this presentation. That means that if the partners in the relationship often argue, that is because they can’t stand the power of closeness and love. Therefore the doubt is here justified that partners have subconscious agreed that they will be together because they lack the strength to be with someone they truly love.

Therefore, as we could see, the game of power and the game of love could be one and the same thing for the lay person. However, that doesn’t mean that partners who argue can’t reverse the situation to the absolutely positive. The opening of the heart is the answer.

Here you can explain to yourself why seducers are successful. They are successful because of their emotional remoteness due to which persons that are not related to love and seduce each other. That means that seducer doesn’t differ from the victim and vice versa. Precisely said, only a seducer could seduce a seducer and take him/her into bed. And nowadays there are lots of seducers.

Chapter III – RELATIONSHIPS AND KARMA

SPIRITUAL PARTNERS

When two souls are very close, then they are willing to sacrifice for each other.


That means that if someone, let’s say, get ill, certain souls could make easier the illness and in that way, they take a part of suffering to themselves, so in such way, they share the illness to be more tolerable. This often animals do for people, especially for their master. That means that kindred souls, i.e. of spiritual partners mostly sacrifice for each other. It happens life after life.

However, in the world and the life, it is not always easy to recognize it. It often seems that some people are enemies to each other, but if someone is capable of viewing the inner world, one could realize how many souls of the people are mutually sacrificed and helping each other.

That’s why I often say that people are unaware of themselves. They don’t realize that they are soul, but they think that they are ego.

It’s not the same if you consider yourself being ego or Self. There is much misconception in this difference, like in communication, as well in acting, and in the same way in experiencing truth, lie, happiness, and misfortune.

What do I want to explain?

The true sacrifice is the one when the soul, i.e. Self is sacrificed for someone.

You could get ill without knowing that you are actually making a sacrifice for your partner because he is maybe facing the sea of troubles that your soul wants to alleviate. On the other side, a person with developed ego and with lots of pride and vanity, who could supposedly stick for the closest ones, making a sacrifice, and eventually ruining it all, and bringing misfortune right to the person he/she wanted to help. That’s because when a person is acting with pride, biased and selfish, such person can’t even help himself/herself, and let alone others.

Someone would ask oneself, how could someone else take on the consequences of your acting upon yourself if I have explained for many times that everyone pays its own debt?

So, you see, that is also the karma that you have deserved.

By doing good deeds, you are gaining love and faithfulness of human souls. In that way, by doing good acts, the larger number of souls will protect you on the inner plan, and it’s all more feasible because you are gaining more positive karma, while the negative one is vanishing.

At this point we could conclude:

– Who takes care of oneself is even protected by God.

That means that by protecting others, you are protecting yourself. And since the others are one and the same God, these others will protect you. In this way, a righteous person can’t be harmed, and even if it does get harmed, there are lots of mitigating circumstances, because many souls on the inner plan will sacrifice

for him.

PERMANENCE

Jesus said:

"Whoever swears by the sword will fall by the sword."

Many people are interpreting this proverb only in war categories, conflicts, and physical aggression. Precisely said, as related to this statement people are only comparing their weapons.


Of course, that sword in this statement is not representing just weapons. It represents everything that man uses to win for the benefit of its egoism and to satisfy his selfishness, pride, and vanity. Therefore the sword in this statement mainly represents the corrupt way of living. Corrupt living in some segments brings certain misfortune and suffering to the man. Because of God’s justice, you can never avoid it.

So in this statement sword could be drugs, alcohol, gambling, cigarettes. It could also be ion, pride, vanity. It could also be aggression and false sanctity. It could also be lying, theft, and infidelity. It could be all and everything if you just think about it a bit.

Based on that, the sword is a negative action of an evil man.

At this point, I want to look at a sword that is the most widespread and part of

the greatest delusion in the history of humanity. That is the sword of unfaithfulness to oneself that has ascended in the world as love.

The very fact that shows that people selfishness and unfaithfulness call and consider to be love is enough to realize how much are people ignorant nowadays. As I have already said lots of times, the ignorance is the demon that brings misery to a man, even without his not knowing that.

This further means that it’s ignorant to keep repeating the same mistakes all the time, and repeatedly getting even more unhappy and lonely.

Two young men in full youth strength mocked and provoked an elderly man. That man said to them:

- Guys, forgive me the thing that I will say, but you two are very naive.

Youngsters were stunned because they hadn’t expected such reaction from the man.

He said to them:

- I was working all my life with crazy, violent people, criminals, and murderers. Do you know why I am still alive? That is because I was not taking out my complexes on everyone by arguing and making conflict. You two are going to be injured much faster even than you could guess. You could have even the hundreds of victories, but only one moment is enough, one defeat, so that man

could be dead, or that his body suffers the consequences that will diminish his permanence, strength, and longevity of life.

This story is not just reflecting the truth and justice. It also means that man who believes in God, believes in His justice and protection. Security of the faith in God determines your security in Self. Many people are nowadays practicing martial skills. However, people are being all the time challenged by others because no one anymore has confidence in oneself. Self-confidence is at the same time the ing by of the fights.

Here we come to the point that I want to explain.

Every person has its own spiritual partner. The man always has such destiny that he/she meets its spiritual partner in his life, whom God has assigned to him for grooving on the spiritual journey, and that he/she is not alone on this journey. However, many people rely only on destiny forgetting that they are the ones who create their future by present actions. So if you don’t want to take effort with your partner, or if you want to be unfaithful to your partner, or you want to leave your partner, then God has to respect your decision. Exactly in that way people deserve to lose their true love. God helps man according to the actions of that man. Some people are jumping into relationships, pretending that they look for love and happiness, thinking that world and God are unjust, while the only truth is that God and world work for the man’s well-being and that man persistently refuses help with his bad actions, and thus refuses both love and happiness.

Weird, isn’t it?

ADAM AND EVE

One of the catastrophic features of the ego is that likes to blow things out of proportion and to brag.


When someone tends to make a mountain out of a molehill and to brag, he inevitably comes into the situation to show that. However, that’s not all. Such person inevitably comes to facing oneself and its own delusion i.e. frenzy.

Once a man woke up from the long sleep. When he came round, he realized that he was on a spaceship traveling to some planet far away.

There was a lot of people on that ship. They all acted normally as if they didn’t sleep and didn’t miss much. They were talking among themselves about things and events as if it really happened, so the guy who just woke up had a feeling that he missed lots of things. He said:

- The way you talk people, it’s impossible that you’re making that up or acting. You really experienced that.

However, in that moment, he recollected his loved one. He also ed that he had left her for the higher goals (at least he thought). He felt immense suffering and insufferable pain. As soon as he opened his eyes from the long sleep, although being aware that he was away from the loved one for the very short time, his realization that they were not together for a long period made him very unhappy. He hugged the pillar at the center of the ship and bitterly wept.

Everything that he wanted was to tell her how much he loves her and that he doesn’t want to part ever from her. Not even at the price of death.

Interesting, isn’t it? You are going for higher goals and just two minutes after you realize what a sheep you are.

A kindred spirit is your partner in a worldly manner and life. The rule is following:

-Never part from your kindred soul.

However, this rule is not the most supreme.

Which rule is more supreme than that?

- Never part from God. – This rule is more supreme.

However, people betray and abandon God for trivial stuff. They fight for the world and for survival in the world. Thus they are unhappy and immensely suffer. They think to suffer because they are mortal and they don’t fulfill their wishes. They don’t realize that they suffer because they have given up on God. They think that they could achieve happiness without God. They also think that there is somewhere partner better than their kindred spirit waiting for them.

Here I want to point at a great delusion related to Bible. When Adam and Eve

have tasted the apple from the tree of acknowledgment, the story is that they did it while God was absent. When God supposedly came back, He was angry and banished them from Heaven, He has decided that Eve will give birth in pains and that Adam would have to work hard in the field.

We can see here how much people nowadays are negative, that even the legends of God are wrongly interpreted.

The first thing is -God never goes away. God’s leaving is the man’s oblivion. God is always present. The second thing is, God never condemns, He just explained it to Adam and Eve that forgetting God they are taking on them the suffering of the worldly life and suffering of the soul due to the separation from God.

Life on the Earth always involves suffering. However, the suffering of the soul and loneliness could be avoided by the conscious presence of God.

If the man forgets God, he greatly suffers. He thinks that there is a happiness in the world without God. That could never happen.


God never abandons the man. Only the man abandons God.

From the initial story, we could easily conclude that man has put himself into a situation that he wanted to be with his beloved one, but he couldn’t because the

spaceship was already far away on its way to a distant planet. Many could say that he was hindered by circumstances. However, the main reasons are actions and decisions that lead to it. The man has to take steps afterward that will again lead him to a situation that he wants. Thus we could make out a new principle that says:

-As soon as you pay off all the karma, you will return to God.

Until is so, you will have to settle with the God’s notice (if it appears at all).

This rule also means that if you have deserved parting with the kindred spirit with your bad deeds, in order to be reunited with it, you will have not just to pay off negative karma, but also to do positive steps to deserve it again.

God is not punishing the man. The man is the one who punishes himself, people, and God.

The man who hasn't realized Self spiritually suffers terribly. Social status, role and capacity, and possessions in the world are not playing any role as related to the suffering.

So why then give up on valuable things that you possess and make scenes and magnify such ignorance?

I always say that the man should live principles (especially men) and that life without principles is also life without sense and love. However, based on this

example we could clearly see that many people are only thinking as if they are having principles while in reality, they live egoism, cowardice, stupidity, and self-destruction. In this example a man not only that he didn’t appreciate himself and his life, but he hurt himself, even the loved one that he left for “supreme” goals.

All of that happens because the man forgets God and isn’t evaluating according to God. That’s how the principles get wrong.

So, Adam and Eve are the perfect examples of the human race on the journey towards self-recognition. They are the expression of human privilege and not punished or some renegades. They are remarkable road sign to the humankind that the man mustn’t ever forget about God.

Forgetting the God is the acceptance of false, and giving up on oneself and one’s happiness.

HOW TO (NOT) /BE SUCCESSFUL IN LOVE

A woman wanted a rich man. When she had found a rich one, she realized that he was penny-pinching. Then she said:

– I hate most of all stingy people, and I came across such one.

Then she wanted beautiful and handsome one. She found such guy. It turned out that he was a narcissist because many women wanted to have sex with him. She realized that he is unfaithful, so then she said :

– The most of all I hate narcissists and unfaithful men, and I have come across such one.

Then she wanted the smart one. She thought that the man without ''powerful'' brain is no good. She has found such man. It turns out that he considers her a fool, he had no respect for her, and he acted as if he knows everything, although she knew that she was neither less smart, nor less worthy. Then she said:

–I despise the men with complexes and who have no self-respect, and I always choose someone like that.

She was very hurt, so she went to a psychology counselor. There they have explained to her that if she acts according to rules, she will find a good man (?).

They have taught how to behave. They have told her what is allowed to her, and what’s not.

In that way, she had found a seducer and a manipulator. Then she said:

– I hate simpletons the most because they have not a bit of dignity, and I chose such one.

One day, she met a wise old man. He noticed how sad and unhappy she was. He asked her why was she unhappy. She nicely explained everything to him. Then the old man said:

– Why wouldn’t you pray to God for man that is going to love you, and you will love him in return, and you will have a relationship where both of you are happy, and where your relationship brings happiness and joy to all people, and in a way that you stay together and in love for the rest of your life?

She listened to the piece of advice, So she started praying to God as the old man suggested. It was a long time before she cleaned herself from the inside, and while she cured her spiritual distress. In the end, due to her endurance, moral purity and sincerity, God has fulfilled her wish, so she has found the man that she loved, and that he loves her. They stayed together. They haven’t abandoned each other, and it never comes across their mind to do so. Then she said:

– I like the best love, and it happened to me that find the man who offers that. Thank God for such gift.


God fulfills all the wishes. Everything comes from Him. However, there are no rules in love. Love rules.

STORY ABOUT PAIN, SADNESS, AND MISFORTUNE

A woman was looking for the love of her life. A day came when she met a man that she liked a lot. Without a thinking, she started a love relationship with him. She got to love him a lot. They had a good sex and they felt nice being together.

Over time, his true face started to reveal itself. She discovered him being egoistic. He was being nice only while it suited to him. He didn’t care what was she like, what was important to her, what were her thoughts, hopes, wishes. The only things important to him were that she was attractive, good in sex and a good housewife.

He started seeing other women. Before that he has made her kids because now he gets to know her well, so with kids, he wanted to tie her to himself and to the house. He cheated on her all the time. She was sitting at home and crying.

In the end, totally unexpected even to him, he left her and went with another woman.

She has suffered and was being unhappy for years. She condemned the man and the day when she met him. She thought how bad he was and how much evil he had done to her all the time.

One day, her pain was so great that she wept all day long. At some point, an unimaginable sorrow surfaced. The sorrow larger than any she has ever faced. Suddenly, she was not thinking how much her husband was evil. She started to pray to God for the forgiveness of sins.

You ask yourselves, how’s that possible?

However, it took lots of time for her husband to live his oats out that she will reach evil and injuries that she did to other women and wicked deeds from the past, she recognized herself in her husband. Thus he prayed for forgiveness because she realized that justice has come to take her toll and that doors of repentance and comion are opening for her.


Recognize yourself in others, especially in those who do harm to you and pray to God for forgiveness and salvation. This story also means that you should steer clear exactly of this strong feeling of lust and attraction. They exist with the reason, and most often they are not positive, nor desirable, although many want to believe that they are.

RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF

Some person has gathered a bad karma in the past.


That means that someone, let’s say, could be unfaithful to its partner for five times. Someone was unfaithful to his partner only once.

I would have to explain this.

The person who was unfaithful with five people has gathered much more negative Karma than the one who was cheating only on one person. The more cheating you do, the more negative karma you will get with different people, furthermore, the more contempt you are carrying inside, and therefore the more you still have to learn. If you have hurt someone, he/she carries the abuse within oneself, even if you lose . That abuse gets noticeable via karma when you meet again in this or some other life. As a rule forgiveness and love get visible when the karma is made even and the person stops having the certain problem when gaining insight and knowledge. For that reason, it’s not good doing evil and not taking care of creation in any way. If someone causes the slightest inconvenience to nature, to some animal or a person, that has to equally reflect on him, whether he believed in that or not. I note this because nowadays there are many people –ignoramuses who like to think that they are above nature or living beings that they consider inferior to them.

Someone could be cheated only once and being able to free oneself from contempt and unfaithfulness. The one who cheated for five times probably carries inside much more contempt, and thus it could happen to him that he gets cheated again all the time until he/she frees oneself from too much of negativity.

Thus I always say that person slowly gets liberated, without exaggeration. It’s like throwing the trash out. You take it out pile by pile. You can’t do it all at once.

Negativities are the karma. If the person is unfaithful to the partner or to oneself, such person shows open or hidden contempt to oneself or partner. Such a situation depicts suppressed love, and a person without the possibility to manifest true love is an unhappy one. That is why I often state the final equation, and that is that the unfaithful man is the same as an unhappy man.

A sincere believer is the one who prays to God all the time to beg for situations so that he/she can properly pay off the negative karma without waiting and without being again involved with the people he owes to, and of course, to gain insight and knowledge. Thus the help of a good psychotherapist is golden. Because a real psychotherapist can help the patient become aware of negativities and help him/her diminish them and get rid of the same.

The message is:

You’re never a lost cause. Take care of yourself and your problems until you manage to solve them and gain freedom. Never doubt and give up. Now I think that it’s clear why I point out that one should love one’s life and one’s destiny. You are one of the kind in the world, and you deserve to act to yourself with respect, even if you have many evil actions on your back. Why would you punish yourself if you know that you will properly pay off your debt? God’s love, grace, and justice will not give you the second choice.

Chapter IV – DEVELOPING SYMPATHY

EVIL MEN

Evil men exploit weak women.

Such men are cowards.

My heart is with such woman.

Why?

Because I know that Supreme also feels the same.

Girl, if you are crying, don’t be afraid.

The time of freedom is approaching.

ABOUT ABUSE (or, to women)

It happens that a man beats its woman and he tells her that he loves her.

Such man not only that is brutal, but it also lies.

Such person lies both himself and you.

Such person is actually a coward because he can’t face his weaknesses.

The one who loves is not able to do such a thing.

Never trust such man.

SOMETHING ABOUT FAKE FRIENDSHIP

Earlier I had chanced to see some women having ''friend'' in a literal sense of the word.

What was characteristic of such a friendship was the fabrication of various stories and provocative behavior in order that the selected listener would be in a state of deceiving, jealousy, worry, and abuse.

What I want to explain is that such relations are not friendship. Friends shouldn’t be so dishonest.

Such friends like hyenas eat one another after a while.

One should avoid such people.

Friends are gentle and soft, they never abuse the position.

Chapter V – EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

ENLIGHTENMENT

In my life, I could repeatedly see as woman abandons her man. Then she founds someone else, although she hasn’t forgotten the previous one, and pretends to be happy.


That means that previous man will find himself a better woman, and the first women after a while can’t pretend anymore, so she loses the second man too.

Why is that so?

Because insensitivity and selfishness are man’s false friends.

When you are pretending, for the sake of ego, then you lose.

Be faithful to yourself, and to your Self.

WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND

Once I have heard the story at work that a colleague has cheated on her boyfriend, who was also her colleague. Everyone laughed at him behind his back. I didn’t.

That is because I know that it’s better to be cheated on than being the one who cheats. The one who cheats is just making its own debt.

So, if you have already been laughing at others, laugh at those who do evil, and not at those who suffer it.

It’s a bit stupid that willing going to slavery and misfortune is considered to be special.

Because here is the question raised: what is waiting for you in the life just with such attitude?

MODERN MOTHERHOOD

We all know that parents love their children generally. When one talk about love, the maternal love is considered to be the greatest.


Where love rules, the peace, happiness, and prosperity rule too. However, we have to be realistic and it that today there are the most of lonely and unhappy young people. Such state is the result of parent’s lack of care. That further means that parenthood has failed. Consequently, the mother maternal love has also failed (although many wouldn’t like this statement).

What’s the reason of that?

For the men, i.e. fathers it’s obvious. The contemporary men are above the average, egotistical and disinterested. With women, it’s also clear if we’re being realistic. The downfall of the woman resides in her emancipation. However, the problem is not generally in emancipation, but in what many people (and such an intelligent people) consider emancipation is.

If the man is egoistic, female emancipation consists of their trying to be a man. If you are a woman and you want to have the same rights and live like any egoistic man, it’s understandable that this is the wrong way and wrong goal.

Women give the name of self-realization to what is actually ego confirmation, or satisfaction of selfishness, lust, and careerism. In this way, a woman becomes insensitive and bad for the upbringing of her children. Poorly raised children

must be unhappy. So, I’m not only talking about evil deeds and wrong ways here, but also about the misfortune that is the result of lack of parental love and proper upbringing.

Self-realization is achieved with inner unity with God. What could then emancipation bring? It brings the realization of ego, and not self-realization. Emancipation brings loneliness and misfortune to a contemporary woman, but also the disappointment in the sense that her children turn against her, or in the best case mothers have to look at the suffering and misfortune of their own children. If they look at it and it even hurts, they still don’t realize their mistake, and they don’t understand their pains and pains of their children.

Emancipation is nowadays mentioned in very positive context. Nevertheless, both doing good deeds and love are mentioned in the positive sense. However, the contemporary woman doesn’t recognize love as well the essence of emancipation, nor she is recognizing the good deeds, and furthermore, she doesn’t know how to properly raise the kids and how to sincerely love the children.

This is the delusion of the contemporary society. Instead of looking for the roots of the misfortune, everyone glorifies something that is basically not only low in intensity, but it also turns out rotten.

This further doesn’t mean that maternal love is considerably lower in intensity. One of the reasons is emancipation. The second, also primary reason is insensitivity of the modern man who, with his unfaithfulness is not leaving another choice to the world but for women and children to suffer, make mistakes and do evil and thus suffer.

The men definitely allow that children suffer for the sake of money and career.

They invented the principle that the smart one is the one who snatches, and not the one working honestly. This is how the gap is made in the society because of which many modern generations are greatly suffering.

All of this wouldn’t happen if a modern woman really wanted to actualize oneself. The modern women are so wayward that they believe that they could make achievements with selfishness and egoism. Such women, when they see the suffering of their own kids, in case they are smart they would think about the causes and start to change. But how could change the person in which the selfishness, contempt, and egoism have taken over and master him? Something like that is almost impossible. Therefore such a sad life stories happen because well-fuelled egoism is not thinking about changing. Only suffering and humble heart manage to change the selfishness of an insensitive person. That is why mothers don’t realize their insensitivity. They poorly raise their children and cheat on their husbands, believing that they are emotional and good-natured.

Evidently, the primary reason for the suffering of the young people is insensitivity of the fathers. This reason fuels the women with the desire to revenge and get equal to men.

Maternal love has always been glorified. The maternal love is considered being a supreme secular love. However, devastating is the fact that quality and intensity of love generally greatly decreased.

The message is:

What is valuable is protected with valuable. What is worthless, is changed with valuable things. Emancipated women have forgotten that, and what is worse, they are not interested in it.

That’s why despite their success in society they have hands full of bitter tears.

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