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1 Introduction The Malay traditional wedding institution holds a very sacred position in Malay society. The Malay marriage is a regal affair where the bride and the groom will be treated as the King and Queen of the day. The nuptial night is spent at the bride's house. The following day, similar festivities, normally on a smaller scale, are held at the groom's house. Then, for the next one month or so, the couple will be invited for meals at one house after another in order to usher them into the married community.
The Malay Wedding The activities that take place during Malay wedding come from the diverse cultural traditions. The numerous activities constitute a Malay wedding may be conveniently be divided into three groups representing three stages. For the Malays, there are certain preliminaries or events which must happen before the wedding or rather, before you can hear the beat of the kompang and before the wedded couple can sit regally on the pelamin. Activities which precede the actual wedding ceremony consist of: -
Betrothal ("Engagement")
-
Akad Nikah ("Marriage Contract")
-
Bersandingan ("Wedding Ceremony")
The Betrothal Betrothal is the pre-wedding meeting between the bride's and the groom's parents will determine the dowry that is to be given to the bride as well as the date of the solemnization. This may be as early as a year before the wedding itself so that arrangements could be made in advance.
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Once agreement for the marriage has been reached between the families of the potential bride and the potential bridegroom, preparations for engagement (Betrothal) take place. Representatives from the young man’s side once again visit the house of the young woman, following the confirmation of a date and time for such a visit. On the side of the potential bride, a consensus is obtained regarding the following: a) The date and time for the Betrothal ceremony. b) The amount of money to be paid by the young man for expenses (Wang belanja). c) Details regarding the gift (Hantaran) items. d) The date and time for the actual wedding ceremony and feast.
Agreement is also reached on certain details regarding the engagement ceremony, including: (a) The number of persons who will constitute the bride-groom’s party. (b) The number of trays (Dulang) of gifts that will be brought in addition to the traditional betel-leaf containers (Tepak sirih). For the betrothal ceremony the young man and the young woman will be represented not by their parents but by other carefully selected persons.
3 On this day the date for the wedding ceremony (akad nikah) and the various other conditions and requirements will be also confirmed by both parties. Once all such matters have been resolved, the bridegroom’s representatives will hand over all the gifts (hantaran) items with the exception of the engagement ring. The ring will be placed on the finger of the potential bride by an elder sister or aunt of the potential bridegroom. The potential bride will all this while be in her chamber.
4 Potential bridegroom’s side will prepare the various items to be presented to the potential bride. Similarly on the side of the young lady, gift items to the presented to the young man are prepared. Customarily, the potential bride groom will send the following items to the potential bride on the day of their engagement: (a) A gold or diamond ring. (b) Sirih meminang : A betel-leaf container (tepak sirih) complete with betel leaves (sirih) and other ingredients. (c) A complete set of clothes. (d) A scarf or shawl (kain tudung). (e) Fruits or other gifts. (f) A handbag. (g) A pair of shoes.
Similarly on the side of the lady, gift items to the young man are prepared. The total number of gift-trays and the number of items returned as gifts by the bride must be in odd numbers, usually 7 or more. The gift items may include a velvet cap (songkok), a prayer mat (sejadah) a pair of clothes and so on. The gifts must also be placed in an add number of trays, the number of trays being higher than those received from the potential bridegroom’s party.
5 Akad Nikah A Malay wedding begins with the akad nikah ceremony, normally place in the morning, and is held either at the local mosque or at the bride’s home. As Muslims, the couple is legally deemed husband and wife only after the akad nikah (or wedding contract) has been signed by the groom. An authorized religious officer (normally the imam of the local mosque) or the girl’s wali (male person closely related to the bride, such as her father, or where it is delegated to the religious official) will preside over the akad nikah ceremony in the presence of several witnesses from both parties. The ceremony is carried out on the floor of the mosque or at the hall or living room of the bride’s home. The groom is seated on a specially made cushion with the wali or imam seated in front of him. Before the ceremony of the akad nikah, the imam will read out and advise the groom on the duties of a husband, and the consequences if he leaves his wife. Normally the advice given are meant to ensure that he becomes a good husband and treat his responsibility as husband and head of a family properly. It is imperative that the words of acceptance by the groom must be uttered immediately; clearly and in one breath otherwise it has to be repeated. The decision or final say of whether the acceptance had been made clearly by the groom is determined by the witnesses sitting around the groom.
6 If the witnesses agree that the words of acceptance had been made clearly and are acceptable to them, then the imam will read the doa or prayer of thanks and the groom then signs all the necessary statutory documents. Then it's the "membatal air sembahyang" session whereby the groom will be allowed to touch the bride's hands to insert the wedding ring. It is now rightful and legal for the man to touch the woman who is now his wife. This is a brief affair, and after putting the ring on her fingers, the bride will kiss the hands of the man who is now her husband. The Wang Belanja is usually an amount of several thousand Ringgit. It is different from the dowry (Mas Kahwin) which is also paid by the man to his future wife. The amount of the Mas Kahwin is usually fixed by the Islamic Religious Council in each state, but a potential bridegroom may give any amount above the official figure.
Adat Berinai The berinai (henna application) ceremony is held prior to the wedding. The bride's palms and feet are 'decorated' with the dye from the henna leaves. The ceremony of Berinai involves the staining of the couple’s hands with henna. Lesser or greater berinai ceremonies are held three times as follows:
7 a. Berinai Curi takes place three nights before the actual wedding ceremony (akad nikah) with the participation of close relatives and friends only. b. Berinai Kecil. Takes place two nights before the wedding ceremony with the participation of family , neighbors and close friends. c. Berinai Besar is usually held after the completion of the religious ceremony (Akad Nikah). Of the above three ceremonies, the berinai besar is the major one. The lesser ones may take place in private, usually with the participation of women only. For the berinai besar the newly married couples sit on the specially decorated dais (pelamin). Family from both sides take turns to apply henna to the hands of the seated couple. Rice and a mixture of flour may also be applied to the palms and foreheads of the couple, as a sign of blessing. Henna is regarded as a blessed item, that is, it is used as a means of cleansing and protection from evil or malicious influences.
The Persandingan Often the wedding is held on one convenient weekend so as to accommodate relatives who live far away and to reduce costs. The hari langsung, literally “the day of completion”, which also involves the bersanding or ceremonial seating on the dais, is considered the high point of a Malay wedding.
8 In the morning before the bersanding ceremony the bride will change into new clothes, and various fashions may be tried out in selecting the dress to be worn for the bersanding. Popular bersanding fashions include those of from the Minangkabau tradition, Kelantanese styles as well as styles derived from the West. The bridegroom is not allowed to enter the bride’s house before the bride sends him a prepared betel leaf known as sirih latlat or sirih genggam. This is a sign that the bride now awaits the arrival of the bridegroom. The bridegroom walks slowly towards the house of the bride, his party is led by womenfolk. This is the ceremony of berarak, or walking in procession. Behind them comes the group of musicians beating various types of drums, especially the hand-held kompang, as well as bearers of decorative flowers (bunga manggar).
The arriving party takes their seats in a special area of the house for the martial arts (pencak silat) performance which is held as a sign of welcome and paying respects to the bridegroom as the king for the day. Then both the bride and the bridegroom are invited for the bersanding ceremony. This is the sitting in state ceremony and theoretically the first time that a bride and her groom meet. Seated on their chairs on the platform (pelamin) the couples are
9 blessed with scented water, henna, sandalwood paste and rice flour paste. The bersanding publicly ratifies the union. Following the bersanding the newly-married couple will come down to the halaman rumah for lunch or dinner (kenduri), to which guests will be invited. Further activities including light entertainment or joget dance sessions may take place in the evening to conclude the Malay wedding. Sometimes this is followed by the tukar pakaian (costume changes) and the bride and, less often, the groom will don different clothes for photography. The pelamin (raised dais) will be beautifully decorated for the purpose.
Hadrah troupe
Blessing
Kenduri
Bunga telur Some women would make the bouquets of flowers for interior decorations, and especially the bunga telur, ("bunga" is "flower" and "telur is "egg" –i.e. fully boiled chicken egg wrapped decoratively). This is the traditional Malay gift to guests. Bunga telur is a symbol of fertility and it is hoped that by giving out the bunga telur the married couple would be blessed with many children. Nowadays, variations of the bunga telur, such as gift-wrapped chocolates and sweet candies, are given out to guests. This is because with guests into the thousands, it would be a very tedious chore having to boil a few thousand chicken eggs (eggs with broken shells cannot be used for the bunga telur). However, in keeping with tradition, the bunga telur is still given out, but restricted only to very close relatives, friends and special guests.
10 Sambut menyambut The adat of sambut menyambut or ceremony of "Welcoming the Daughter-in Law" is usually done at the bridegrooms’s house to welcome the bride. This may take place a day or two following the bersanding. Sometimes a second bersanding ceremony is held in the bridegroom’s house to give the opportunity to the women of that household who did not have the opportunity to be present at the first bersanding ceremony to bless the newly married couple.
11 Reference: 1. http://www.etawau.com/HTML/Culture/MalayWedding/MalayWedding.htm 2. http://www.hilalplaza.com/malaysia-wedding-customs.html 3. http://www.bicycletouringmalaysia.com/Malaysian%20Cultures/Malay_Wedding.htm 4. http://www.etawau.com/HTML/Culture/ChristianWedding/PhilippineWedding.htm 5. http://www.everyculture.com/Ja-Ma/Malaysia.html 6. http://www.malaysianculture.com.my/aboutmsia.html 7. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mohammad_Nor_Khalid 8. http://www.pulau-pangkor.com/malay-wedding.html 9. http://www.hilalplaza.com/malaysia-wedding-customs.html 10. http://www.bicycletouringmalaysia.com/Malaysian%20Cultures/Indian_wedding.htm 11. http://www.bicycletouringmalaysia.com/Malaysian%20Cultures/Chinese %20Wedding.htm
The Malay Wedding The activities that take place during Malay wedding come from the diverse cultural traditions. The numerous activities constitute a Malay wedding may be conveniently be divided into three groups representing three stages. For the Malays, there are certain preliminaries or events which must happen before the wedding or rather, before you can hear the beat of the kompang and before the wedded couple can sit regally on the pelamin. Activities which precede the actual wedding ceremony consist of: -
Betrothal ("Engagement")
-
Akad Nikah ("Marriage Contract")
-
Bersandingan ("Wedding Ceremony")
The Betrothal Betrothal is the pre-wedding meeting between the bride's and the groom's parents will determine the dowry that is to be given to the bride as well as the date of the solemnization. This may be as early as a year before the wedding itself so that arrangements could be made in advance.
2
Once agreement for the marriage has been reached between the families of the potential bride and the potential bridegroom, preparations for engagement (Betrothal) take place. Representatives from the young man’s side once again visit the house of the young woman, following the confirmation of a date and time for such a visit. On the side of the potential bride, a consensus is obtained regarding the following: a) The date and time for the Betrothal ceremony. b) The amount of money to be paid by the young man for expenses (Wang belanja). c) Details regarding the gift (Hantaran) items. d) The date and time for the actual wedding ceremony and feast.
Agreement is also reached on certain details regarding the engagement ceremony, including: (a) The number of persons who will constitute the bride-groom’s party. (b) The number of trays (Dulang) of gifts that will be brought in addition to the traditional betel-leaf containers (Tepak sirih). For the betrothal ceremony the young man and the young woman will be represented not by their parents but by other carefully selected persons.
3 On this day the date for the wedding ceremony (akad nikah) and the various other conditions and requirements will be also confirmed by both parties. Once all such matters have been resolved, the bridegroom’s representatives will hand over all the gifts (hantaran) items with the exception of the engagement ring. The ring will be placed on the finger of the potential bride by an elder sister or aunt of the potential bridegroom. The potential bride will all this while be in her chamber.
4 Potential bridegroom’s side will prepare the various items to be presented to the potential bride. Similarly on the side of the young lady, gift items to the presented to the young man are prepared. Customarily, the potential bride groom will send the following items to the potential bride on the day of their engagement: (a) A gold or diamond ring. (b) Sirih meminang : A betel-leaf container (tepak sirih) complete with betel leaves (sirih) and other ingredients. (c) A complete set of clothes. (d) A scarf or shawl (kain tudung). (e) Fruits or other gifts. (f) A handbag. (g) A pair of shoes.
Similarly on the side of the lady, gift items to the young man are prepared. The total number of gift-trays and the number of items returned as gifts by the bride must be in odd numbers, usually 7 or more. The gift items may include a velvet cap (songkok), a prayer mat (sejadah) a pair of clothes and so on. The gifts must also be placed in an add number of trays, the number of trays being higher than those received from the potential bridegroom’s party.
5 Akad Nikah A Malay wedding begins with the akad nikah ceremony, normally place in the morning, and is held either at the local mosque or at the bride’s home. As Muslims, the couple is legally deemed husband and wife only after the akad nikah (or wedding contract) has been signed by the groom. An authorized religious officer (normally the imam of the local mosque) or the girl’s wali (male person closely related to the bride, such as her father, or where it is delegated to the religious official) will preside over the akad nikah ceremony in the presence of several witnesses from both parties. The ceremony is carried out on the floor of the mosque or at the hall or living room of the bride’s home. The groom is seated on a specially made cushion with the wali or imam seated in front of him. Before the ceremony of the akad nikah, the imam will read out and advise the groom on the duties of a husband, and the consequences if he leaves his wife. Normally the advice given are meant to ensure that he becomes a good husband and treat his responsibility as husband and head of a family properly. It is imperative that the words of acceptance by the groom must be uttered immediately; clearly and in one breath otherwise it has to be repeated. The decision or final say of whether the acceptance had been made clearly by the groom is determined by the witnesses sitting around the groom.
6 If the witnesses agree that the words of acceptance had been made clearly and are acceptable to them, then the imam will read the doa or prayer of thanks and the groom then signs all the necessary statutory documents. Then it's the "membatal air sembahyang" session whereby the groom will be allowed to touch the bride's hands to insert the wedding ring. It is now rightful and legal for the man to touch the woman who is now his wife. This is a brief affair, and after putting the ring on her fingers, the bride will kiss the hands of the man who is now her husband. The Wang Belanja is usually an amount of several thousand Ringgit. It is different from the dowry (Mas Kahwin) which is also paid by the man to his future wife. The amount of the Mas Kahwin is usually fixed by the Islamic Religious Council in each state, but a potential bridegroom may give any amount above the official figure.
Adat Berinai The berinai (henna application) ceremony is held prior to the wedding. The bride's palms and feet are 'decorated' with the dye from the henna leaves. The ceremony of Berinai involves the staining of the couple’s hands with henna. Lesser or greater berinai ceremonies are held three times as follows:
7 a. Berinai Curi takes place three nights before the actual wedding ceremony (akad nikah) with the participation of close relatives and friends only. b. Berinai Kecil. Takes place two nights before the wedding ceremony with the participation of family , neighbors and close friends. c. Berinai Besar is usually held after the completion of the religious ceremony (Akad Nikah). Of the above three ceremonies, the berinai besar is the major one. The lesser ones may take place in private, usually with the participation of women only. For the berinai besar the newly married couples sit on the specially decorated dais (pelamin). Family from both sides take turns to apply henna to the hands of the seated couple. Rice and a mixture of flour may also be applied to the palms and foreheads of the couple, as a sign of blessing. Henna is regarded as a blessed item, that is, it is used as a means of cleansing and protection from evil or malicious influences.
The Persandingan Often the wedding is held on one convenient weekend so as to accommodate relatives who live far away and to reduce costs. The hari langsung, literally “the day of completion”, which also involves the bersanding or ceremonial seating on the dais, is considered the high point of a Malay wedding.
8 In the morning before the bersanding ceremony the bride will change into new clothes, and various fashions may be tried out in selecting the dress to be worn for the bersanding. Popular bersanding fashions include those of from the Minangkabau tradition, Kelantanese styles as well as styles derived from the West. The bridegroom is not allowed to enter the bride’s house before the bride sends him a prepared betel leaf known as sirih latlat or sirih genggam. This is a sign that the bride now awaits the arrival of the bridegroom. The bridegroom walks slowly towards the house of the bride, his party is led by womenfolk. This is the ceremony of berarak, or walking in procession. Behind them comes the group of musicians beating various types of drums, especially the hand-held kompang, as well as bearers of decorative flowers (bunga manggar).
The arriving party takes their seats in a special area of the house for the martial arts (pencak silat) performance which is held as a sign of welcome and paying respects to the bridegroom as the king for the day. Then both the bride and the bridegroom are invited for the bersanding ceremony. This is the sitting in state ceremony and theoretically the first time that a bride and her groom meet. Seated on their chairs on the platform (pelamin) the couples are
9 blessed with scented water, henna, sandalwood paste and rice flour paste. The bersanding publicly ratifies the union. Following the bersanding the newly-married couple will come down to the halaman rumah for lunch or dinner (kenduri), to which guests will be invited. Further activities including light entertainment or joget dance sessions may take place in the evening to conclude the Malay wedding. Sometimes this is followed by the tukar pakaian (costume changes) and the bride and, less often, the groom will don different clothes for photography. The pelamin (raised dais) will be beautifully decorated for the purpose.
Hadrah troupe
Blessing
Kenduri
Bunga telur Some women would make the bouquets of flowers for interior decorations, and especially the bunga telur, ("bunga" is "flower" and "telur is "egg" –i.e. fully boiled chicken egg wrapped decoratively). This is the traditional Malay gift to guests. Bunga telur is a symbol of fertility and it is hoped that by giving out the bunga telur the married couple would be blessed with many children. Nowadays, variations of the bunga telur, such as gift-wrapped chocolates and sweet candies, are given out to guests. This is because with guests into the thousands, it would be a very tedious chore having to boil a few thousand chicken eggs (eggs with broken shells cannot be used for the bunga telur). However, in keeping with tradition, the bunga telur is still given out, but restricted only to very close relatives, friends and special guests.
10 Sambut menyambut The adat of sambut menyambut or ceremony of "Welcoming the Daughter-in Law" is usually done at the bridegrooms’s house to welcome the bride. This may take place a day or two following the bersanding. Sometimes a second bersanding ceremony is held in the bridegroom’s house to give the opportunity to the women of that household who did not have the opportunity to be present at the first bersanding ceremony to bless the newly married couple.
11 Reference: 1. http://www.etawau.com/HTML/Culture/MalayWedding/MalayWedding.htm 2. http://www.hilalplaza.com/malaysia-wedding-customs.html 3. http://www.bicycletouringmalaysia.com/Malaysian%20Cultures/Malay_Wedding.htm 4. http://www.etawau.com/HTML/Culture/ChristianWedding/PhilippineWedding.htm 5. http://www.everyculture.com/Ja-Ma/Malaysia.html 6. http://www.malaysianculture.com.my/aboutmsia.html 7. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mohammad_Nor_Khalid 8. http://www.pulau-pangkor.com/malay-wedding.html 9. http://www.hilalplaza.com/malaysia-wedding-customs.html 10. http://www.bicycletouringmalaysia.com/Malaysian%20Cultures/Indian_wedding.htm 11. http://www.bicycletouringmalaysia.com/Malaysian%20Cultures/Chinese %20Wedding.htm
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