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Long Term Butt Plug Wear (Overnight) Dear Anal Advisor: My boyfriend would like to insert a butt plug and have me wear it overnight. Is it safe to do so? Denise, New York, NY Dear Denise: I assume that you and your boyfriend are experienced anal players if he's cooked up this little plan for you. I'd like to address your question and also talk about wearing butt plugs in general for readers who may be less experienced. For many people, the feeling of fullness one gets from having a butt plug inserted is highly pleasurable, and some like to extend that pleasure for various lengths of time. My friend Susan wears a butt plug on long traveling excursions by car and train; she says it makes the time go faster. I know another woman who likes to wear a butt plug out on a date, in order to begin foreplay over dinner at a restaurant. Through each course of the meal, she is reminded of her ass, and with every shift in her seat, she prepares her ass for bigger things to come. I've also heard of plug lovers who like to wear a butt plug out in public just for the hell of it. These folks carry on everyday activities with a big smile on their faces. They like the feeling that they know something the rest of the world doesn't. They are having a naughty sexual experience in public that no one else knows about but them! Wearing a butt plug out in public or for an extended period of time can be hot, fun, and sexy, and here are a few tips to make it even better. First, you should work your way up slowly. Begin by wearing a butt plug for a half hour, see how it feels, how you like it, what works and what doesn't. If your thirty minute excursion goes well, try an hour next time. Continue building up the amount of time (in reasonable increments) that you wear the plug. Like anything else you put in your ass, the butt plug should be well lubricated. You may want to consider taking it out every hour, re-lubing it and re-inserting it. Some of you purists may consider this cheating, but keep in mind that the lube will be absorbed by your body eventually, and the plug may get uncomfortable. You have a number of options when it comes to making sure the plug stays securely in your ass and won't fall out. You can purchase a butt plug harness which looks very similar to a dildo harness and does the job quite nicely. Sometimes a very tight pair of underwear, briefs, or a thong will keep it in, depending on the size of the plug and how strong those sphincter muscles are. My girlfriend loves to make a rope harness for me that runs between my legs. When I move, the rope rubs against both the plug in my ass and my pussy giving me a double sensation I just love. If you do use rope, make sure it's not too tight and that it's soft rope that doesn't chafe or burn. Don't make complicated knots that are not easy to remove in case you have to do it in a hurry. Wearing a butt plug for a long time won't block anything unless you need to have a bowel movement, and then (common sense) take it out, go to the bathroom, and you can put it back in. Finally, on to your question about wearing a butt plug overnight. If you are very experienced with wearing butt plugs for long periods of time, I say, go for it. Make sure to use lots of lube, and you should probably take it out first thing in the morning when you wake up!

Butt Plugs and Submission Dear Anal Advisor: My Mistress would like me to wear a butt plug daily. I've agreed to a small one, but she really wants me to wear a large one because she thinks that a bigger plug will make me more submissive to her. Is it possible and harmless? -Plugged-up Slave Dear Plugged-up Slave: Wearing a butt plug every day is possible and harmless, as long as you use plenty of lube, and you warm up your ass with fingers or a smaller toy first. You should be aware of a butt plug, but it should not feel uncomfortable or painful at all. If you plan to wear it for several hours, you should work your way up in small increments in order to allow your body time to adjust to the new activity; in other words, if you've only ever had a plug in for fifteen minutes, don't try it for four hours. As to the matter of your level of submissiveness, only you and your Mistress can really answer that. A bigger plug may make you more aware of your ass, and, by extension, help you focus on your dedication and service to your Mistress. But the size of a butt plug alone does not affect one's level of submission-bigger does not always inspire better. http://sexdoc.com/analsex2.html Q: Is it safe to wear an anal plug for an extended period of time? Which is best for prolonged stimulation? Is it safe to wear one to work for 3-4 hours at a time? A: Most of the literature refers to this as a "butt plug". If you've never seen one, search the web or order the Adam & Eve catalog (link from my home page). Comfort is affected by both internal pressure and by tissue where the flange -- the flared part that keeps the plug from slipping completely inside the rectum -- touches the anus. If you use a water-based lubricant, it will either be absorbed through the skin or evaporate, in both cases becoming dry. Then you can irritate exterior anal tissue and the inside of the buttocks. Anybody out there go to Summer Camp and get butt rash? If you use a petroleum-based lubricant you will deteriorate the latex of the plug. Some of my patients swear by Albolene, which is a make-up remover. Buy the smallest quantity you can (major chain drug stores, etc.) in the unscented version. It's a white cream that liquifies at room temperature and it spreads like wildfire. The universal first use mistake is to use too much. Albolene is made of Mineral Oil, petrolatum, paraffin, and other stuff. It won't evaporate, and it's a great skin cleansing and makeup remover. What is best for prolonged stimulation is a matter of individual preference. Some butt plugs vibrate; others can be inflated internally. CAUTION: The butt plug is a popular item because it is stimulating. In addition to stimulating sexually, it is also stimulating to the gastro-intestinal tract, and may promote peristalsis -- the ripple contractions of gut muscles that move the food product from the throat to the rectum and out the anus. So after some time (varies dramatically from person to person) there might be the need for a significant bowel movement. If you're at work for 3-4 hours wearing a butt plug, and you don't have a private bathroom, it could really stink up the place removing the plug and evacuating your rectum. Plus, how do you explain the wash-up at the sink to the person standing next to you? (Oh, ... just doing the dishes ...) Or you just wrap up the plug in tissue and carry it around with you for the rest of the day? (Smelly). Experiment at home or in some privacy before trying this in public.

Anal Explorations, Part II: Long-Term Butt Plug Wear Last week, I answered a reader question about anal sex and hemorrhoids. This week, we'll continue our exploration of the intricacies of anal play by tackling a question about butt-plug usage: What concerns might there be if one were to use butt plugs over long durations? As in, only removing when necessary?

======================================================= Butt plugs are toys designed to be inserted into the anus and left in place (rather than moved in and out with a thrusting motion as one might use a dildo). Wearing a plug can create a sensation of fullness that can be pleasant during other types of play (oral sex or vaginal penetration, for instance) or all by itself. The best plugs are made from nontoxic materials that are easily sterilized (like 100% medical grade silicone), and they should definitely have a flared base that prevents the toy from slipping all the way inside the rectum. Many people like to wear butt plugs for extended periods of time. Some will wear a plug during their daily activities, like going to work or running errands, to add a dimension of fun and naughtiness to their routines. It can be a thrill to have a "secret" that no one in your office knows about! Other people wear a plug to prepare for anal play later in the day, using the plug to get the anus accustomed to penetration and to generate excitement. Some use butt plugs as a tool in dominant/submissive relationships, with the dominant partner ordering his or her sub to wear a plug for a certain length of time. There is a general consensus among sexuality educators that wearing a plug for 10-12 hours should cause no harm, as long as the follows the general rules of anal play: Use lubricant, go slow and pay attention to your body's signals. If you are interested in wearing a plug for hours at a time, it's best to work up to this by gradually leaving the plug in place for longer and longer periods each time you wear it—don't try to go for 10 hours on the first attempt. Also, if you are experiencing pain or discomfort, remove the plug, even if it means that you don't reach your goal. It's always important to use lube during anal play, but this is even more important when wearing a plug for a long period of time. Water-based lubricants will eventually dry up or be absorbed by the body and should be reapplied to prevent discomfort and chafing from the plug. Silicone lubricants will stay slippery longer, but can't be used with silicone toys, and I definitely would NOT recommend anything but silicone, glass or metal for extended anal wear, since toys not made from these materials can contain toxic chemicals that could cause irritation if they're in with your skin for a long period of time. The type of plug you choose will also affect your comfort and thus your ability to wear it for extended periods of time. Plugs with a base that fits comfortably between your cheeks will be easy to wear while sitting, standing or walking, and plugs with a narrower neck and thicker top will be easier for your body to keep inside. You may need to experiment with a few different types to see which one is most comfortable for you. Finally, be prepared for unexpected interruptions. Inserting a butt plug can cause peristalsis, which is the reflexive muscle action that moves matter through the digestive tract. In other words, you may need to poop, and you may need to poop suddenly. Think ahead about bathroom access if you'll be wearing a plug while out and about. Also, even though you've been able to wear a plug for four hours on one occasion does not mean that you'll always be able to do this with comfort. Take a plastic re-sealable baggie with you in case you need to remove the plug while away from home, and don't worry that you've "failed" somehow—sometimes our bodies can't do everything we want them to do.

More on Wearing Anal Plugs Long Term http://www.expressmilwaukee.com/article-12522-moreon-wearing-anal-plugs-long-term.html by Laura Anne Stuart A while ago, I answered a question about wearing butt plugs for an extended period of time I received the question below as a follow-up to this column: While I understand that 10- to 12-hour use of an anal plug is fine, my concern is with 24-hour use, removing only for defecating and hygienic necessities (or the occasional day off). Do the stretching, and more specifically the eventual incontinence issues, hold any true relevance? Additionally, are those concerns still relevant depending on whether the toy extends from the outside through the anus like a plug or is worn inside, for example, "on a string”? I asked Mark P. Behar, PA-C, a physician assistant at Milwaukee Health Services Inc. and a volunteer at Brady East STD (BESTD) Clinic, to comment on this question. Behar says, "Unfortunately, I do not have the answer to this question. There are no good research studies that evaluate the short- or long-term effects of using butt plugs. Therefore, I am compelled to extrapolate what we do know, and deduce what we would expect to be true. "The usual physiologic condition of the internal and external [anal] sphincter [muscles] is to remain tightly closed, except for momentary defecation, anal stimulation during sex or medical examinations, when a cascade of nerve stimulation allows momentary relaxation.” "So what if a person uses a butt plug? Momentary and short-term use probably is not much different than bowel movements, anal sex, or medical procedures. Long-term use, however, probably is. "Imagine how your body habituates to the sensation of a mosquito walking on your arm. Initially, the tickle sensation is quite annoying. This probably is also related to your realizing that there is a bloodsucking insect on your body! In other words, there may be a cognitive component that overcomes the reflex scratch or swatting that comes almost automatically. After considerable time, this bug-crawling sensation loses the severity of its annoyance and is easier to tolerate. It may not even be noticed! You are habituating to the bug’s walking on your skin. Imagine also what happens to anyone who does not operate a set of muscles regularly, say, from an injury to an arm or leg. After the acute injury heals, the previously injured muscle will be very weak, and may require some time to get back to normal function. "Let’s now return to long-term use of the butt plug. The anus is left in a constantly open position, instead of being tightly closed. Does this contribute to a habituation of the nerve-muscle reflex associated with voluntary sphincter control? Will this contribute to irreversible damage or bowel incontinence? Possibly, but we don’t know. But if we know anything about how the body responds to chronic stimulation, then I think I would read between the lines. Anything for short periods of time will probably be fine. But longterm use is probably not a great idea, and may contribute to chronic and irreversible changes in how the nerves and muscles ‘down there’ work effectively." I would add to Behar's comments that the idea of using an internal plug that is connected only to a string on the outside—like a tampon—doesn't sound like a great idea to me. This design works in the vagina because the vagina is a closed, relatively short space, and things inserted into it aren't able to go past the cervix, which most women can touch with their fingers. The anus and rectum, on the other hand, have a tendency to pull objects further inside the body through involuntary muscle contractions, and objects are able to travel so far inside the body that a visit to an emergency room is necessary to remove them. With the plug-on-a-string scenario, there's no guarantee that the string itself wouldn't be pulled into the body or that the plug itself wouldn't travel dangerously far up the rectum. I've seen some examples of silicone plugs attached by a slender silicone cord to a cock ring, which would prevent the plug from traveling too far into the body while still not stretching the sphincter as much as a traditional plug might, but this still doesn't address the overall issue of whether long-term wear can cause permanent nerve or muscle changes.

Butt Plugs Extended Wear: How long can you wear a butt plug for? It will probably come as no surprise that there hasn't been a lot of clinical research in the area of extended butt plug wearing (also sometimes called butt plug training). Yet people, for a variety of reasons, sometimes want to keep a butt plug in for longer than a single sex play encounter, and may wonder about the safety of doing so. Why Wear a Butt Plug for an Extended Period of Time? For many people, inserting a butt plug and then leaving it there for several hours, is not, per se, a sexual activity. Once it's in, it may not even provide stimulation that an individual finds sexually arousing (after a while some people even stop noticing it's there). There are different reasons people give for wanting to keep a butt plug in for a long period of time.

For some people it is purely about getting their rectum and sphincter muscles comfortable with an object inserted in the body. As with any part of the body, if there is touch (or penetration) we aren't used to, even when it is highly desired, our bodies can respond with tension. Exploring anal masturbation is one way to develop comfort and knowledge about your body's response, and butt plugs can be a useful tool to that end. For other people wearing a butt plug all day, or at least at times when they aren't engaging in sex with a partner, is a way of staying connected to their partner. In relationships where partners are exploring power, dominance and submission, it might be that one partner requires the other to wear a butt plug to work under their clothes. Of course the "requirement" is something both people have consented to (otherwise we wouldn't call that sex, we would call that sexual abuse or sexual coercion). There are many other reasons people are interested in wearing butt plugs for extended periods of time. And what most of those people want to know is… Is It Safe? To answer this question all we have to go on are anecdotal reports from folks who have tried and succeeded or failed to various degrees in their extended wearing of butt plugs. It's not possible to say that butt plugs should only be used for 30 minutes, or never worn for more than four hours. Certainly butt plugs can be worn for longer periods of time. What seems to be the safest answer though is that you should take the plug out every now and then.

The major concern with having a butt plug in for a long time seems to be that if you keep a butt plug in for a while, the lubricant that you (should have) used when inserting it, will dry up. When all the lubricant evaporates and you have a dry butt plug in your rectum there is a much better chance that when you take it out it will hurt, and it could create tears in the lining of the rectum. The tearing may be minor (and for most people it will heal) but it increases your chances of an infection and if you're having unprotected anal sex with a partner and they have a sexually transmitted infection (STI), it can increase your chances of transmission of the STI. The Bottom Line:

So in the absence of any tested best practice guidelines, the best advice from those who have done it before seems to be that you can keep a plug in for many hours, but you'd be wise to take it out now and then and reapply lubricant. Of course if you have specific concerns or reasons why you think this might be a difficult thing for you to do with your body, you should think about talking with a doctor who knows you. It can be embarrassing, and doctors aren't usually well trained in the area of sexual pleasure, but your doctor should be willing to answer your questions, and hopefully do so with a minimum of editorial comment.

http://loveandhealth.ifriends.net/QA.cfm?Topic=9&ID=937&y=1&y=1 QUESTION: Hi there! I have a question in regards to butt plugs. I enjoy living a BDSM lifestyle, and I often read stories that talk about a partner forced to wear a butt plug for extended periods of time. My question is: Are there any risks to using/wearing a plug for extended periods of time? If so, what are they and what time parameters are we talking about- an hour, an afternoon, a day? Thank you! ANSWER (by Dr. Gloria G. Brame): As far as I know, there are no data on how long people can wear butt plugs. For better or worse, it is something you will need to experiment with on your own. In order to do so safely and pleasurably, here are some general facts and advice to guide you. First, when exploring the use of butt plugs, start with the smallest plug you can find (usually in the 3-4" range). It should be safe to insert something that size in your anus for 10 to 15 minutes.. However, let your body be your guide: if it hurts, take it out and try another time. If it hurts the next time, then a visit to your doctor may be warranted, as you could have undetected warts, hemorrhoids, or some other condition that should be treated. When choosing a butt plug, always opt for something made of flexible material (such as silicone) which will yield to your body's anatomy. Avoid hard plastic dildoes or plugs made of other inflexible materials. Use plenty of lube. The anus does not produce lubrication and lube helps avert irritating or tearing the sensitive tissue in the rectum. Select a commercial lube over something out of your kitchen, and slather it on. It will not decrease the sensation and will make any anal experience more pleasurable. Once you can successfully wear a small plug for 15 minutes, you can try either to use a larger plug; or you can experiment with extending the amount of time you keep a small one inside. Again, as long as you aren't in pain (or bleeding!), there are no significant risks of harm, even if you keep it in for hours at a time. But don't wait to cause harm, either, by forcing yourself to endure more than you really can handle. Be aware that if you wish to wear a butt plug for an extended period of time, you will need some device to keep it in place. There are, for example, chastity belts which have special attachments to secure a butt plug. Or you could wear latex underwear (available in fetish shops) or even a tight girdle. Otherwise, the body's natural response to having something lodged in the anus is to attempt to push it out, and your plug will pop out, particularly when you stand or walk. Finally, make common sense your best friend. For example, stop if it hurts. Make sure the butt plug is clean (scrub or sterilize it between uses). Don't take a plug that has been in your anus and introduce it into another orifice (such as a mouth or a vagina)--it could spread infection. Don't go for extended periods without defecating--it could lead to serious constipation. Similarly, if you start cramping, remove the plug until you feel better or have used the toilet. As long as you follow these basic rules, you could train yourself to wear a butt plug for hours at a time, and enjoy all the fun of feeling controlled that way without risking injury.

All About the Buttplug Lifestyle Blog: Dec 2, 2005 RE: Sleeping with a buttplug in If you've been wondering how long a person can wear a buttplug, or have been contemplating sleeping with a buttplug in your ass, as I do, you might find the following helpful. I've been sleeping with a buttplug up my ass four to six nights a week for nearly 18 months now; it's pretty much a permanent feature of my bedtime routine, whether or not I've been wearing a buttplug that day or not. The main thing to is that your ass and rectum must be trained to do this. As you no doubt are aware, the longer you use buttplugs, the longer you can wear one in one sitting. As time progresses, you may go from a mere 15 minutes up to several hours. Sleeping while plugged is only an extension of this. If you can comfortably wear a particular plug for several hours, at least five, then you are ready to try sleeping with that little toy plugging your ass. First, you will want to choose a plug that is so comfortable to you that as you walk around, going about your daily business, you routinely forget that it's back there. This is to ensure that you aren't putting new or uncomfortable (and potentially damaging) pressures on the various muscles and tissues you'll be affecting. Second, make sure that you go to the bathroom before going to bed, really evacuate those bowels. make sure your plug is clean and warm and ready to go. Lube up, plug up, and go to bed. If your ass is truly comfortable with the plug you've chosen, you shouldn't need any form of making sure the plug stays in place - your sphincter muscles should be enough even when relaxed. (However, if you're used to wearing something that ensures the plug doesn't slip out and don't trust yourself when you cough or sneeze, you should continue wearing that insurance. Me, I sleep wearing nothing but the plug; being horizontal seems to be enough insurance against the plug falling out, but also I use a plug that is of medium size, meaning it has a good bulge to neck ratio. I wouldn't recommend trying to keep any of those slim, narrow plugs in without external help.) It helps to take a bath or shower before bed and be really relaxed. I do not recommend plugs that reach very deep - after all, your body functions will continue and fecal matter will tend to occupy your rectum along with the plug overnight. I'll address what happens in the morning in a bit. I tend to use plugs that are medium in length and girth, though I have worn a short, fat plug overnight several times and I have also tried an 8" dildo - but didn't quite make it through the night with that one. You might have different results. Your first several nights trying this will NOT be restful ones! Your mind will be too occupied with that fact that you actually have something holding your anus open and shoved up your rectal cavity to sleep well. As your brain goes through the sleep cycles, every time it rises to light sleep, you'll wake up, probably. Don't worry, this lessens over time, just as training yourself to sleep with a different pillow or on a different matress or wearing a PAP mask (you snorers!) takes time. You may also be horny as hell since plug-wearing, after all, is primarily for sexual gratification at first. Wearing a plug overnight simulates having a nice thick cock up your ass all night, though that isn't practical. After several over-night attempts, you should find yourself waking after eight hours of sleep refreshed, well-slept, and happy. You may even be pleasantly surprised once you sit up to be "reminded" that you have a buttplug in your ass! After awakening, you probably need to go to the bathroom. If you don't, you should go anyway. Do NOT force the plug out by pulling. Overnight, your rectal walls will have absorbed any lubricant you used and instead a thin coating of mucous will have encapsulated the plug, just as it does fecal matter. Just relax and let the plug out with the normal operation of evacuating your bowels and the plug should come out slowly and easily. If you're like me, the plug will come out almost clean, with slight traces of that previously mentioned mucous coat. Once the plug is out, do your business as you usually do, and then you can put the plug back in (after a thorough washing of course!) If you choose to put the plug back in (and I often do, at least for the couple of hours 'til I leave for work), you might find it ridiculously easy, or right back to the same degree of resistance as if your ass were fresh. Sometimes the anal muscles will be sore. Soreness prompts rest, so don't push it. You can always put the plug away and come back to it when your butt feels better. And that's it!

Inserting a Butt-Plug For the First Time by Jack Rinella The following is an essay I borrowed with permission from Tammad's web site. It provides an excellent introduction to butt plugs. After Tammad's essay, you’ll find some added some comments from a Ken and my slave Patrick. Tammad Rimilia: “A medium size butt plug is an excellent place to start, given that you've already decided that you are interested in having a plug inside you. The small size is for convincing uncertain anal virgins that it isn't the least bit bad. “A few hints: put the stopper in the sink and run warm (not more than about 95 degree F) water into the sink; let the plug soak in the warm water for 10 minutes before you insert it. Time things so that you've had a bowel movement recently, so that the rectum is likely to be empty. Or take a water enema. Then put a blob of lube on one finger, and gently work it into your anus. Add another blob of lube, and work that in too. When your finger moves in and out easily and slippery-ly, take the warm plug out of the water, dry it off. “Put a big blob of lube in the palm of your hand, and then roll the plug around in your hand, until it's coated with lube from tip to the base. Kneeling on the bath mat, put your ass up in the air, face down to the floor, and reach around with your un-lubed hand and begin to work the tip into your ass. Go in an inch, pause, pull out a ways, maybe twist it 180 degrees to spread the lube, then go in further, pause, repeat. Each time it feels like it won't go in any further, hold it there, savor the bittersweet "burn" of stretching muscles. After 60-90 seconds, the muscles should relax, and you can pull back and then insert even further. “If you feel the plug ‘sticking,’ remove it, and roll it around in your still lubed hand until it's evenly coated again, then resume the insertion process. Once the widest part of the plug goes past the anal sphincter muscles, they'll clamp down on it and pull it the rest of the way inside you. At that point don't try to stop it or pull out, gently assist the plug the rest of the way in. “Once it's in, wash your hands, and enjoy the wonderful sensation of being plugged. If you're worried about it sliding out (which is only likely if you have a good sneeze or you start to cramp), wear an old tight pair of shorts to hold it in. Then go about your day! Some people find wearing a butt plug to be a sexually arousing experience, some find it to induce a strong sense of submission.” “Listen carefully to your body, and see how you react. When having the plug inside you starts to become uncomfortable, or when you just want to take it out, sit on the toilet, reach behind to hold onto the flange of the plug, and use your normal bowel movement motion to expel the plug, assisting with gentle pulling. There may be a momentary discomfort, but it should slide right out. Don't worry if it takes several tries.” “It's not a good idea to sleep wearing a plug. You won't be awake to feel it, so there's little benefit to you, and it will loosen your anal sphincter muscles a lot, which it will take them a commensurately long time to recover from and tighten up again. “Also, while going overboard at first isn't a problem, in general you want to leave 2-3 days between ‘anal play’ days, so that your muscles can recover. Certainly occasional binges are OK. “There is nothing wrong with liking the feel of something in your ass. And liking those sensations doesn't mean you're gay. It can be fun to have a girlfriend fuck you in the ass with a strap-on, for an interesting reversal of roles. :-) If you are considering using food items or random household items as your first butt plug, don't. I strongly recommend that you get some latex rubber plugs from your local ‘dirty book’ store. It's much easier to clean 'em, they are less likely to have bacteria on them, and they are not going to have sharp ridges, which might scrape or damage your skin.

If you decide to insert a dildo rather than a butt plug, don't insert it too deeply as they tend to be longer. You'll be able to tell when it doesn't want to go in any further, so don't force it. Your intestine makes a 90 degree left turn about 6 inches in, and you don't want to poke through the wall at the bend there. In practical , what this means is not to sit down while having an overly long object inserted. Another reason for using the latex butt plugs -- they aren't likely to be too long for you to wear, even sitting down.” Additional comments from Patrick: “There is very little in the essay that I disagree with but a few added observations are in order. If you have never used a butt plug or dildo and have not been fucked a lot in the ass you will find the medium butt plug Tammad suggests starting with a bit of a shock. Go with a smaller size, and before that use your fingers a good bit, first one and then two. You'll want to up size before too long once you've seen how minor the small one really is. The idea here is to ENJOY the sensation.” These comments from Ken might be helpful: "...the top on Sunday, at my request, spent some time playing with my hole. First fingering, then a toy. Prior to this the most I've had in that orifice is fingers, thermometers, and enema nozzles. I'd never had a fingering quite like this, but it was okay. Then he put me on my back, legs up and began using a small dildo.... "He ordered me to j/o at the same time. I was lying there thinking relax and submit, relax and submit and let me tell you my hole was yelling back, ’get that thing out of here!’ I'll pause here and give you a chance to stop laughing. "Anyway, all of a sudden he pushed it in, and without any warning or particular enjoyment I came. I didn't feel exactly ready prior to that but all of sudden, whoosh there it was. Of course, I almost missed it, because I had given up on relax and submit and was now representing my hole and yelling at him to take it out. "I know, I know, not very obedient! So what happened? Why did I cum like that? Also, how do you relax and submit when things really do hurt? I mean, if I'm gonna continue in this m/m, submissive lifestyle I think orifice availability is an issue." Patrick continues: “Getting back Tammad’s essay, his insertion instructions are right on target. As the plug is reaching it's widest point it will help if you flex your ass muscles and legs a bit. Raising one leg up will change the pressures on the plug and the last bit of slipping in should go more smoothly. “The burning sensation is a real feeling, much the same as the burn you from working out a muscle beyond what you had previously. You are making your ass muscle work in reverse of what it normally does and it won't do that without some protest. “The moment when the plug has slipped in fully will be a bit surreal. ‘Is it in there?’ you will ask yourself. The feeling will be much different than that last bit of exertion that you went through to get it there. You'll be surprised at the sensation. “I haven't found sleeping with a butt plug in place to be much of a problem. Tammad is right that you don't feel it, though there is that peace of mind that you are doing the right thing by keeping it in. Sleeping with it in is also important if you are training to increase the size of the plug you are using. Extended wear of one size is the only way to build yourself to a larger plug. “A few days’ rest from using a plug will allow the muscles to resume their tightness. Again, the experience is no different than when you work out other muscles on your body. While wearing the plug avoid activities such as bicycle riding, and you will find that you naturally want to sit with caution, especially on firm surfaces.”

http://www.differentequals.com/glossary.html Anal Plug (Butt-Plug) - specially designed dildo for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not "fall out". Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for "ass training" to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. Bathroom Use Control - Scenes where the Dominant restricts or takes control over the submissive's bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterization, enemas, diapers, rubber pants, and possibly golden showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age play, and golden shower play. Butt plugs for potty training - Butt plugs are anal inserts in many sizes which can be installed for total control of biological functions. Often they are strapped on and locked and the sub may wear them continuously. “The Mistress Manual” by Mistress Lorelei Butt-Plug – A thick cone, made of leather or rubber, insinuated into a disobedient male’s anus to remind him of his lowly status. “Primer on Male Submission” by Ms. Simone Butt Plugs – An excellent device for public humiliation and control. “Owning and Training A Male Slave” by Ingrid Bellemire: A word about butt plugs. These can considerably increase the slave’s feeling of total control by his Mistress and the use of the slave’s anus by his Mistress adds greatly to his humiliation. A Mistress requiring the use of her slave's anus for say a strap-on or electro anal torture should open him up gradually by increasingly extended use of a butt plug. Do not use water based lubricants with butt plugs as they are quickly absorbed by the skin. The lining of the anus is very delicate and quite easily damaged so anything inserted must be well rounded and very smooth. Petroleum jelly is the best lubricant and will not be absorbed. Start with a small or medium-sized plug and increase the size and length of time gradually until the slave can take whatever you require for as long as you wish.